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writes:I found out from a friend that my when my boyfriend masturbates he thinks of me. But he also said he thinks of someone else but that person doesnt mean anything to him and I mean more than the other person Well if that person doesnt mean anything to him why is he thinking of them? I havent confronted him about this and probably never will. I just wanted to know your guy thoughts Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 March 2012):
 It's called a fantasy. Who you think of while getting your rocks off, has nothing to do with who you love and care for.
And whomever passed this info on to you did it for a reason, so I have to ask who told you?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 People think of all types of things when they masturbate. It could be something from a book or film, it could be some dream they once had, it could be a fantasy about the girl next door, your sister or your mother or the Kentucky Fried Chicken Man. That's just how the brain works.Often people don't like to fantasies about their current boyfriend or girlfriend, because the feel like they are using them without their consent, and making them only a sex toy to play with in their dreams. They feel that this is disrespectful, so they think about someone else. Sometimes they don't like to think about their partner because it excites them too much and they orgasm to quickly and feel frustrated and unsatisfied.Whatever the reason, why the hell is your boyfriend talking to people about what he thinks about when he's got his penis in his hand, that's the thing you should be concerned about. Sex and masturbation should be private, and that so called "friend" isn't a very good friend at all, because they've got you worried about nothing, and if they were told this in trust, they sure got a funny way of keeping personal secrets. If I were you I would tell your boyfriend not to keep talking his business.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 March 2012):
 why is a third party passing such personal information back and forth between you guys?
FWIW I think of my man when I masturbate but i also think of other folks too... who or what you THINK of is not indicative of WHO you love
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 March 2012):
 I'd be wary of any random friend who offers up this information uninvited. Why would your boyfriend have even told him about actual people he thinks about when he masturbates?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): I will admit that everytime I masturbate I don't think of my boyfriend, mostly I do but every now and then I think of someone else. It's fantasy, i would never ever actually touch anyone, and I love my bf with all my heart, it's just sometimes the other fantasy is what gets me off. I wouldn't be worrying about it so much. He is with you, not her. It doesn't mean that he loves you any less, sometimes we just need to change our fantasy to suit the requirenments of that particular session. I hope this helps. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): Hey
He probably shoulda kept that to himself, cause knowing he thinks of someone else from time to time just brings jealousy. Its fantasy is all it is, we all see other people as attractive, as he sees this girl, but he is with you, not her. If she means nothing to him and he is not giving you reason to believe anything, let it be.
Hope that helped.
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