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writes: I have always been considered as a loner(and that is why my named myself as the lone wolf).I hardly have any friends and I have been in two relationships during high school. Those girls were pregnant by their other boyfriends and for what? To aggravate me?! Anyway, right now as a college student and I have little to no friends and it kind of bugs me because I am an introvert and I don't really go out to social clubs (by the way, I am 22 years old just to let you know)and I only restrict myself to going to school, the market, and home. Why is it that I don't really make a lot of friends is because of my trust issues and I selectively pick who wants to be my friend. Will I be able to finally have friends of will they betray me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hey,
YOu sound very alone and sad. May I suggest a few things? Whilst it is good to be selective in the type of company you keep......
You said -" I selectively pick who wants to be my friend"
Friends don't selectively pick and choose, friends come to each other because they are drawn to a person's personality. People enjoy spending time with one and other. It could be a shared activity that they both like or it could be something like a sense of humour that they have in common.
Then you said ....
" I restrict myself to going to school, the market, and home"
Well,your not going to meeet many people there? Try doing something new, it can be scary for an introvert but it will be worth it, make sure it is something that you enjoy
Final thought, your not going to make any friends if you sit at home and complain that you don't have any. Your also not going to make any if you think that everyone is out to betray you. Think of it like this, Friends are like bank accounts, you only get out what you put in.
Best of luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Firstly there is nothing wrong with you. You are a natural introvert. I think you will find friendship and love but only with a woman.
I'm like you, its hard to find a good heart out there, but they do exist, your job is to find it.
Good luck
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