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writes:Why is is so hard to depend on other people/ Must I do everything myself if I want things to get done? Why can't people just say no or I can't from the very beginning instead of making promises they cannot keep? I am just feeling very overwhelmed because I really feel like so many people like to talk and don't comit to their word. I feel like buying a dog and running away from everything cause then I will know I can only depend on myself.:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontHANK YOU SO MUCH YOU GUYS - YOU ARE RIGHT:)THANK YOU AGAIN
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 One great piece of advice by Oldersister.
I may add a little cultural bias, perhaps. In some cultures, saying an outright "no" seems impolite or dangerous, so people sugar-coat their refusal by not saying "no" but giving you a convoluted "maybe". A "maybe" that most usually becomes a "never".
And then, some other people like to make promises because that makes them look better than they are. See also: politicians.
I'm afraid the only solution is to do as Oldersister does.
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