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writes:Last summer I met this guy. He had a girlfriend at the time, so I certainly did not put myself out there. Nevertheless, we hung out in a mutual group of friends and I couldn’t help noticing that I did find him attractive. In addition to that, we did seem to have nice bantering chemistry. One day we both happened to be at a group event and we began to talk. I remember him opening up and saying that he was having problems with his gf. He seemed surprised that he had told me that after he said it.Later on in the night he went on to say that he had seen me before, a long time ago. He goes onto explain that he had seen me once at a high school talent show…. about 5+ years ago. Let me quickly emphasize that we did NOT attend the same high school and I did NOT perform in the show. Apparently he just…saw me. In the crowd. We never spoke. But he still remembers to this day. “Wow. Why do you remember that?” I asked. His friend answered for him and said “Guess you made quite the impression on him.” Fast-forward several months. A friend of mine finds love online and continuously nudges me to take a look myself. So I make a profile with no picture and scan through the males in my area. Not interested. Except…yes, there he is. Apparently talent show boy was single, and ready to mingle? So I message him on FB and strike up random conversation. It goes well. We message back and forth several times. We even agree to meet up and play tennis sometime. But one day I message him and he never responds. So everything is dead for a few months. A few months later he randomly pops up in my news feed and, due to lack of sleep, I randomly message him and bluntly admit that the reason I had started messaging him months ago was because I had seen him on the online dating site and, in already knowing him from last summer, was interested. He read the message but never responded. Ouch. I’m a tough girl, so I just brushed it off.Well, over a month ago we ended up at the same social gathering. I was a little embarrassed about my message. So I began to chat up a friend while he played volleyball. Or so I thought. Apparently he was listening to my conversation and he randomly starting making direct comments into it. I soon join volleyball and we break the ice face to face. After the game we hang around a little bit, but I almost make an attempt to leave. Immediately he asks “So..when are we going to play tennis?”We start talking and then he and his best friend proceed to invite themselves to anything and everything that I am doing. We agree that we need to hang out, but never make set plans. Volleyball is a weekly group thing though, and the next time I show up he is there too, drenched in cologne. After the game, he, I , and our mutual friend go out to eat very late in the night.He has to work early in the morning but after eating we ride around a while in his car making conversation with me until his friend interjects and says he’s ready to go home. In our conversations that night though, it was clear that we certainly have a lot of common interests, likes, and ideas.After that he started to like everything I would post up on FB. I once included a link to my blog and he liked it. I posted a book I was reading and he messaged me privately, complimenting me on my blog and how his sister read the same book I did. And then we started a conversation. But then he got sleepy and asked if he could have my number so that we could continue the conversation another time without him having to be at his computer. Well, that was about a week ago and I have not heard from him. Granted, it has taken him over a month to finally ask for it. So I thought that perhaps he is just slow. All the same, he still has pictures tagged on his FB of him and his ex GF when they were a couple. Him kissing her cheek and stuff. So I wonder if his on/off interest is because of that. If perhaps he maybe she has come back into the picture…or if waiting a week for someone to contact you is really normal.
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reader, Lani702 +, writes (14 June 2013):
 Ok, not to be mean, but have you ever read the book, "He's Just Not that Into You"? I know, I know, that's mean to say, but go get the book. The first two chapters are: 1) He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out; 2) He's just not that into you if he isn't calling you. Basically, if he were really into you, he would make it plain and clear with no mistake that he wants to go out with you. He wouldn't start and stop talking to you, he wouldn't not make a date with you, and he wouldn't not call you. It's been months and he hasn't asked you out yet. Do really want a guy who, after not weeks, but months, still makes you wonder if he likes you or not? And ok, so he remembered you from the talent show and that's extremely flattering to anyone's ego, so he does like you. But the bottom line is, he doesn't like you enough. You said you're a tough girl - throw this dead fish back into the sea. Lots more where he came from. And go buy the book.
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