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anonymous
writes:I hate feeling insecure but my b/f travels for business and each time he goes away, I later find photos he's taken of young attractive women. He always puts all his work photos on our computer in a file we both use and have access to. It's not like he's hiding them, but I don't think it ever occurred to him that I might actually look through them. So he first time I did I was shocked to find a few semi-seductive pictures of a couple of young women. I didn't say anything right away, but the next time he was away on business, I found a few more so now it's become a pattern. I finally confronted him one day and he just shrugged and said they're co-workers, or just some cute girl by the side of the road he felt like snapping a picture of(usually of her butt). He says some of them he doesn't even know. So why is he doing this? Is he looking for something?....He says he's just being a guy and I shouldn't worry so much, but is this normal behavior for a guy who's in committed relationship that he says he's happy with?.....I am finding that I don't trust him at all and it's becoming more of a problem in our relationship. I don't know what to do!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): No, it's not normal behaviour for a guy in a committed relationship. Or for a guy in no relationship at all. He says he's 'just being a guy'...WTF? There aren't many men who go around taking pictures of the butts of women who don't know they're being photographed for the purpose of being perved upon by someone they don't even know exists.
This behaviour is disturbing, and certainly worse than a guy watching porn. You need to talk to him about this, or dump him, I'd strongly recommend both.
He may also be breaking the law, I'm not sure what the law is in respect of this sort of conduct.
Good luck
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