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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello, so I am in a long distance situation. We've been 3 years together but he lives in another country. We met when one time he has holiday here in Singapore. So everyday talk Skype, phone calls, and we had schedule visit soon. Next year. So recently this thing is really confusing me how I feel for him. I love him so much that I'm been so patient in this situation. His attitude toward me, recently he's been always tired of his job, which I understand. Sometimes when I see him on Skype, he's so grumpy and sad. And I asked him what's wrong he said he's OK. Just tired, so when he always tells me that, I told him to get rest instead talking to me. And I always get upset when he's not sweet to me on cam, when I always do to cheer him up, and say sweet things, but he don't answer it back. I hate his bad moods all the time. But I never tell him that I'm upset when he's like that, because I don't want to fight or argue with him. What's happening to him? I don't know if he's still in love with me. Can you please give me an advice how to open up to him about it? Not to think that I'm so needy and needs attention all the time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 You have been together three years and you met once three years ago… and have not seen each other since?
This is not a real relationship I’m sorry to let you know this. It’s fantasy. Unless you two have plans to end the distance then it’s just fantasy.
LDRs require some things:
Trust
Honesty
Communication
Regular visits (no more than 3 months apart at a time and more ideally less than that if possible)
A set plan and date to end the distance.
ONE visit every 3-4 years is not enough. Being afraid to talk to someone means you are not comfortable with them. You do realize that in real relationships, tempers flare and everyone is not always “sweetness and light” Disagreements happen.
Who starts the cam sessions most of the time you or him?
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