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writes: Please help. My husband did not show me any attention and i found out that my husband had a secret with his polish work colleague. She asked him to draw a picture of him, because he is an artist and he started to draw her from memory behind my back, i found a photgraph of her in his band which he said he was using to draw her with. And he would sit up half the night, trying to get her picture done behind my back. i also found polish notes in his work bag, And the words: Everything is wonderful, being here is heavenly i asked him about the notes and he said the words on the notes were just irony, I got some notes translated on the internet and they were very suggestive. My husband said he felt sorry for this woman. but he should have thought more about me, his wife, who was a nervous wreck over this. I had not long had a baby and worked 37 hours per week, ran a home and painted the bedroom on top of that with no support, I also had a cancer scare, while he was devoting his attention to a polish woman who never drank or smoked and a fitness fanatic, why did he put his marriage at risk for her. Please help me. Thank you for your time. Lisa
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reader, mystify +, writes (1 March 2006):
 i really feel bad for you, the only way you will know the answer to your question is to talk to him, i dont understand why he says he felt sorry for her.
he should of been looking after you and your baby, i wouldnt trust this woman , as it does sound like its her initiating everything which is something.
you said he gave you no support through any of this, maybe you deserve better than that from a husband, let alone that he was paying attention to this woman instead.
but id still say talk to him if you want answers.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 He has had his head turned by this woman, she has flattered him by asking him to do her picture, he sounds like he is still in the flirting stage and hopefully nothing more than that has gone on.
Confront him with the letters that you got translated, tell him his behaviour is making you ill and you are very upset, you must confront him and do your best to talk it through.
You need to also take a look at your marriage, if you are the only one doing things in it and keeping it going you must ask yourself and him "is this fair" sounds like he has all the fun and you do all the work.
Tell him to sort his feelings out for you and this woman and put his marriage right, should be a partnership not a one sided affair.
If he wont do this or listen to you then is he worth it?
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