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*rianna
writes:Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now...at about 6 months into our relationship he told me that he wanted to get married anf spend the rest of his life with me...he had never had a serious relationship before this so i was sceptical... but he swore he ment it.. so i have given up ALOT fo this guy and lost the relationship with me close family. but all of a sudden he has no time for me and he picks fights with me and it seems like all i do is cry because hes hurt me in some way...Why is he being like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Sounds like he's purposely picking all these fights to get you to snap and break up with him.
You say you're his first serious relationship - he's probably having second thoughts about marriage since you're both so young and he doesn't know how to tell you. So instead, he lashes out and hopes you'll be the one to do the deed.
Which isn't fair to you at all; you need to approach him calmly and talk to him about his behaviour. If he continues to pick meaningless fights, I would suggest giving him what he wants and dumping him.
You're still young and you can find someone else. Plus, someone who alienates you from family members is not someone to want to spend the rest of your life with, you will always feel lonely and unhappy in the long run.
I hope this helps!
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Well, I'm guessing it's because he is a Dill Monkey, and is inmature. If you have tried to talk to him about it, and all you get is static...then you need to hit the door running at a high rate of speed. IF he is like this now, immagine 10 years from now, and how lonley life would be. Please know that I will be praying for you...You deserve to be treated like the Lady you are
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 He's probably having second thoughts and he's hoping if he's mean enough to you, you'll be the one to pull the plug on your wedding plans. Then he won't have to be the bad guy. Only, he still is because he's acting like an ass to the woman he claims to love. You need to have a talk and let him know it's okay to back off of the whole wedding thing if you're not both ready. Maybe he'll get back in line after he realizes he's not stuck in this situation.
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reader, john08  +, writes (8 July 2008):
to be honest i think that your best chance of finding the answer would be to talk to him about it
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