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writes:hi im wandering why my man is convinced ive been cheating, there is no real evidence against me only a phone number that is my cousins. There isn't a name, an address, a place of residence nothing yet he continues to say I have a (friends with benefits)If he`d have given me reasons to stray I could understand,but he hasn`t the sex is fantastic,we like the same music,same foods,same jokes,same crazy lifestyle yet he constantly accuses me,i spend most of my time with him or my kids,he knows were i am all the time,he`s got keys to my home so he can call any time and enter my home, whereas i've got the opposite. Cant call at his home without informing him first, dont know where he is most of the time, will not contact me when he`s supposedly been at home for 5 or 6 hours at a time. I love my man and wouldn't throw us away like that for anyone or anything so why wont he believe me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): i'm afraid what jumps to my mind is that he is omitting jelouse behaviour because he is doing something wrong..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): hi i see from previous answers that alls not well,seems your fella definately has problems trusting you and find it very offencive that he has keys to your premises,yet you havent got keys to his,in my opinion he`s hiding something sinister,something he believes you must never find out,why else would he deny you access to his house without him being present and as for proveing your cousin exist i thing you`ve proved enough already,this guy needs to prove he`s true to you and give you the same amount of trust you`ve given him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Why dont you introduce him to your cousin who will then confirm its his/her number? If you wont then he`s bound to be suspicious,or is right. I doubt very much that you cant call at his home without calling him first. Could it be simply to let him know you are calling so he knows to be there? If he`s accusing you,then he must believe it.I,for some reason,believe that if its your cousin,you would have proved it.Who wouldnt? If it was only to shut him up.Some people will stray no matter how good or bad a relationship is.It seems you are equally suspicious of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): If its your cousins number,why havent you proved it? It sounds rather suspicious to me too if you havent.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 There's an old saying that if someone is accusing you, they must be guilty themselves. I wouldn't normally believe that, but your b/f hasn't given you the same access into his home or the freedom to come and as you have given him. Hmmm.....? If he's not guilty of anything himself, it could be that he's simply insecure. This could come from previous relationships that ended with his g/f cheating on him. It could be that you're a friendly person by nature, and he feels like you send out signals that you are available, when you think you're just being nice to someone. Or if you have remained "friends" with some of your past b/f's he has doubts that you've gotten over them. You didn't say how long the two of you have been together, so it's hard to say. The best thing to do, is always be where you say you'll be and do what you say you're going to do. Eventually he'll figure out he has nothing to worry about. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): hi there,i believe he may have past issues with past relationships,seems his past girlfriends may have cheated on him and this is the reason why he thinks your going to cheat or have already,talk to him let him know that hes the only man for you reassure him and if he really does want you he`ll believe in you and what you both share
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (5 October 2007):
He can't believe a girl like you is totally into him. He need constant reassurance. I think he will get over it.
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