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anonymous
writes:I recently brokeup with my ex husband because of his drinking and now he doesn't answer my text or calls when I try to contact him. We were married, divorced, and then got back together. Finally, I choose to end it again because he ultimately chose drinking over me. I am very sad, hurt and confused. What is he thinking? Has he already moved on that fast and met someone already? Need some answers/suggestions please.
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (5 January 2009):
 You need to get over him. He's an alcoholic, and he's filtering your calls, which shows he's really not interested in you.
What are you calling him about? It's not of your concern what he's thinking. He may have met someone and moved on. Do the same!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Thank you all for your answers and responses. I do not want to get back with him. I can't at this point because I myself do not drink and I can't even relate to him or even be on the same page. I used to drink, but I don't anymore because his drinking ultimately ruined us. I just need to stay strong and take care of myself. I can't help him and that's the hardest. I just wonder if he even loves me or thinks about me? Or is he so sick he doesn't even feel? I will just let him be now-if I don't his alcoholism will ruin me too! I am too good for that. Its just hurts! Thank you all again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): I'd say he's probably drinking.
You have your answers already. You married and divorced for a reason. If both of you chose to get back together, then, I presume, you gave him another chance and he agreed to work on his drinking problem. Obviously, he forgot about that.
I know you're hurt and sad and in pain, but breaking up with him is for the best for you. Alcoholism is very very hard and painful to deal with. After all, his drinking is his problem and his way to destruction, and if he doesn't see it as a problem, then there's not much you can do. He has made his choice. I know that when you love someone, you want to help them. But if he refuses to receive that help, then it's only going to get worse. He IS going to destroy himself, but, most importantly, now he is destroying you as well.
I suggest you leave him alone for now and try to take care of yourself. Don't call or text him. I'm pretty sure that when he sobers up you'll hear from him, but make sure you don't step into the same poodle again.
Best of luck to you. Be strong, and remember, you are the most important person and you definately deserve better.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Do you want to be back with him?
Give me a message if you want, I have a lot to say about this.
-Jmo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Is he drinking to the point where he could be an alcoholc or is he does taking the piss and constantly going out on the lash with his friends. I finished with my ex of six years ago cos all he wanted to do was get hammered - 3 yrs on he's still doing the same and he's since been dumped again for the same very reason (he is a father now too). Is he depressed? Do you have children or does he just need to growm up and realise what he's got?x
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