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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend on Christmas Eve. He txt msg me on Christmas and told me that he loved me he also called, and I talked to him but was very short. He then txt me that night to tell me goodnight and that he loved me and our son. He called the next day and I said look I don't think you understand be we are over with. We then didn't talk until Friday night he went out and got drunk and sent me a txt message telling me to have a good life and that I can f* and $ anyone I want and that he does not care. he told me I was a hoe and to kick rocks. I did not respond. I then get txt msgs from him on New Years about 3 in the morning and he is drunk again. This time saying I hope you had fun. F*$@ off and die B* and ^%. I replied and just said why can't you just ask about your son and please leave me alone. We were together for 2 years and never ever once did he call me any names and now this. We do have a son together that is only 5mths old, and we have not been able to spend any of the holidays together, and New Years Eve is our anniversary so I asked him if we could just be together on that night since he had it off. Well his single buddy told him to lie to me and say they had to work and he did. Well when I found out about this it hurt me so I broke up with him. Since he just wanted to go and party with his buddy and I feel meet new women. I just want to know why he is still txting me at all hours of the night saying this stuff to me. He has not tried to contact me since I asked him to please leave me alone. What is going on with him to be so mean?
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 I disagree with Dr.cop,lawyer when he says "he can't let go it seems when your happy he can't handle it and thats why he's doing it"
I'm not saying what your man did wasn't bad but to end a relationship on Xmas eve over something like wanting to go out with some friends for a drink seems a little trivial to me considering you've been together 2 years and have a 5 month old son.
He is bound to be angry and upset by this and feels he has to text you horribke things because he's hurting so much.
"just let him be and if he sends those texts again delete them ignor them just remember he's only doing it because your happy and hes not"
How you can be happy and over it so quickly after about a week of dumping him is beyond me.
"let him be if he wants to step up and be a man talk to him but if not ignore him he's acting really childish"
I agree he is acting up but then we're all human and I'm sure EVERYONE has been guilty (and probably still is guilty) or saying things they don't mean to hurt the other person in the heat of the moment at times of emotional stress.
He is saying those things to hurt you becuase you've hurt him. It's completely natural reaction to have. I'm not condoning it - most people can control themselves. However, if, for example, I found out a girlfriend was cheating on me initially I'd want to call her names and tell what a b*tch she is. I'm only human. I'm sure the same goes if a woman finds out her man has cheated too.
Sounds to me like he needs closure and if you can't/won't be together then you BOTH need to talk about it afterall you have a son together.
p.s. I notice you said "he just wanted to go and party with his buddy and I feel meet new women"...
You FEEL he wanted to meet new women. Did he? Was this the reason? Or did he simply want to see his friends? Seems to me you've ended the relationship quite hastily based on what you've said here this but then again I, and others here, can only go by what's written here - we don't know the ins and outs of your relationship.
Best of luck in whatever you decide to do next and let us know how you get on :)
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (5 January 2008):
 ok i skipped through alot of your post.
you were togehter for 2 years?
and you broke up with him on Christmas Eve?
and you're asking why he's being so mean...
why not have wrapped the guy a gift with a note in it saying its over and give it to him on Christmas day?
I'm sure you had your reasons but, christmas eve? thats pretty cold. i understand why he'd be like you. i'm surprised you don't as well
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): he can't let go it seems when your happy he can't handle it and thats why he's doing it, just let him be and if he sends those texts again delete them ignor them just remember he's only doing it because your happy and hes not. let him be if he wants to step up and be a man talk to him but if not ignore him he's acting really childish
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