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*laire4uk
writes:i have been seeing a guy for 7 weeks. i have worked with him for 6 months and before we got together we became really good friends. we have had some lovely times together but lately he has backed right off. i don't know why cos last time i saw him we had a great time! Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Before you drive yourself nuts with mental gymnastics, just talk to him! I still think that you're the best person to figure out what's going on!
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reader, claire4uk +, writes (17 June 2008):
claire4uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the reply. i have been away from work on a course so haven't seen him much lately but he's been in touch by phone. however the calls/texts have become less and he's not making plans to see me. i know he's been busy getting repairs done on his house so maybe he's just been distracted. i will see him at work on thursday so will gauge what he's like then i suppose. its just the not knowing what he's thinking that's doing my head in!!
thanks again for the reply!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (17 June 2008):
Has something changed at work? Has he been a bit more separated from your physically? Is he having second thoughts? ...some of this might be going through his mind, including that he might not be as sure about the relationship as he thought he was... or maybe you think it is.
Best thing here is to take the issue straight to him and find out from him directly what's going on. He might even be so distracted with work issues, he's not even realize what's going on. If you were friends first, then having a conversation like this should be easy to do. Good luck and be brave -- take ownership here and find the answers you need to find because there would be nothing worse than wasting your time on something that's not going anywhere, right?
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