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writes: My bf and i have been dating for a year and a half now.I also have a 3 year old daughter,which is not his,he treats her like his own and treats me well and always buys me anything i want.When we started dating we saw each other about 4 times a week,because i was unemployed,but now that im working for the past year,i only see him weekends,friday evening and saturday,because im to tired after work during the week,although i know he wants to come over,he lives 10mins away.But over the last four months hes been acting a bit different.He used to text me during the day a few times,but now maybe only 2 texts a day,sometimes im busy with something and cant reply,if i dont reply,he wont text again,it was never like this.We also had an argument about this texting thing.Also when he comes to my place in the evenings,i would sometimes fall asleep and he would just sit and watch TV,now,as soon as i fall asleep,he leaves,even if its just 2 hours after he got there.Also when he would come over sometimes i would wash my hair,blow dry etc,now when i say im going to do my hair,he says hes going to leave rather.We also had huge argument about this,he said why must i fall asleep or do my hair when hes there,ive got all week to do it when hes not there.He says what does it benefit him to be there if im just gonna sleep,i never have time for him and the little time we do spend together,i wanna sleep or do my hair.Sometimes he doesnt even go home,he goes to a friends place or to a club with friends.Also in the past,he used to ask alot if he could come over to see me in the week,these days he hardly does,if i dont ask him,he wont bother either.Hes also been leaving odd facebook status lately, like "i dont know why i bother" and ,"what a waste of time" and , "maybe i should end it" and "its only a matter of time". Ive noticed he makes these updates straight after hes come from my place after i fell asleep or something.2 days ago we were watching a movie where a girl took her boyfriend out for the day and bought him stuff, and payed for everything,he then made a comment "i wish i had a gf like that",i pretended i didnt hear.Im realy confused as to why hes acting this way,i dont wanna lose him.Please help
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reader, joe culls +, writes (20 December 2010):
the problem is you. you are simply ignoring him without realising. why would you actually do your hair at the time he wanna spend with you? he feels like you dont care anymore. go back and apologise for this, if there are other problems, sought them out soon cz he is getting fed up by the day. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): You're hardly giving him anytime, just Friday and Saturday isn't enough! And to be honest I'd be a bit fed up if my girlfriend fell asleep saturate after I came round, why nit have a powernap for half an hour then take him out to dinner midweek'
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