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writes:Maybe I'm buggin' over nothing. I've heard from my daughter's dad but that's unless I text or call him first. Then he'll ask I haven't heard from you. The phone works two ways. I don't have to call you all the time. Then he text me this morning, after I texted him. He texted me about his other children mother. His son told her he's been staying out either all night or out late in which he was with me. I got kinda upset because he wasn't the same. He usually comes around but since then, he's been at home. He said she kinda got to him but I think she got to him, big time. I'm tired of calling him, texting him. I'm stopping. Am I being upset for no reason?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Is marriage what you want love? Does he make you happy and feel all the thinks you said? If so sweetheart then you have alot to think about right now (:0) Im glad you have talked, you should never feel you canot talk its really important to put your mind at rest about everything..Im glad, You seem soooooooooooo much happier keep me posted hun LOTS OF LVE AND SQUIDGY HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMandy7: Things have been going great between the two of us. We've talked. Discuss our situations, more of our problems and it all went well. He mentioned something about marriage however, I went numb when he did, like dazzed.
It's been good. I just want to be happy again but at the same loved, safe, secure and like everyone,financially okay, stable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Thats ok hun you can message me anytime love no probs, TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMandy: Thanks for your response. I am all grateful. I will definitely keep in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): It about time he took abit of resposability hunny, Its not your problem about his previous relationship you have your own little one to think about, His ex is having ago at him for staying out to late? they both need to grow up and get resposible, If it were not for you there wouldnt be an adult in this hunny, Your the only one with any sense so do what you have to do for you and your little one...That would be my main priority as I can see it is yours. Be honest tell him how it is and get on with your life if he is upset then sweetheart he only has himself to blame...YOU TAKE CARE HUNNY WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses.
He's getting ready to hit 40, got kicked out of the navy, with no job, on state assistance, have three kids (two from his first marriage and one we both have together..in which is signed over his rights because he said I made him do that--how?). Our relationship is back and forth, break up to make up. We go thru this all the time. He'll bring up the past and I get upset, vice versa. I'm tired of this. I want to make a better life for my daughter and I either if it's with him or not.
He doesn't seem to see that. Things would be great, getting along, kids playing with each other and then...pop goes the wizzle! One of us is pissed.
Tux and Mandy: His oldest is getting ready to turn 16, daughter 9 and then our daughter 2 years old. His first two kids mother have gotten to him about him staying out late. I had mentioned to him, if she cares so much about them, why doesn't she spend time with them? Then he said, don't start. I'm being honest with him. He has full custody of the kids. According to him, they were suppose to reconcile so many years ago however, she stayed at his apartment and never showed up to court but get this, he did. So, that's how he got full custody of his kids.
She was supposed to be here for Spring Break but, nope..she's not here because one of her friends didn't come through with the frequently flier miles she was suppose to use. Just excuses after excuses. She was suppose to come but now she can't, this and that, 1 excuse to millions of excuses. There's three sides to a story, his side, her side and the truth. So, I'm pretty sure he's leaving out something.
I'm trying to figure out, what questions I'm suppose to ask him. But you know what? I'm just going to be bold about it, and ask it. Whether or not if he's going to get upset.
Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Hi Hunny
No your not being upset for no reason, this is your childs father and he is acting silly...Ive always been able to talk to my first husband about the children and he does phone if we have a problem and its all done in an adult way and for the benifit of the children..Nothing is brought up about our past, never is he nasty to me now...I think you should just let him get on with it awhile and get on with your life and he may then realise that he does have resposabilitys to his child, And whats with the texting about his other childrens mother eh!!!!! You need support for you and your daughter, Not putting on you about his other ex partners...His children should be his main concern not himself...I hope things work out for you sweetheart TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, tux +, writes (28 March 2008):
 OK I had to read this a few times. Title is incorrect. Should read "My Daughter's Dad bugging me to phone him all the time?"
But well, You do have it right that the phone does work both ways. I have to question why he isn't spending time with his daughter. It doesn't sound like he wants anything to do with your life other than receiving txts and calls from you, maybe because it makes him feel important. I don't think you are being upset for no reason.
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