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writes:I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months now and she's been really happy and always wants to be around me until recently. We did stuff together about every other day during the weekend and I could tell there was nothin more that she wanted. thursday night I called her to see if we were hanging out friday and she was excited. The next day she told me she said she was cleaning the house and didnt feel the greatest. Ever since friday she has been acting strange and doesnt seem to make an effort to spend time with me during the week. This is the girl that got sad because I didnt hang out with her 4 days before. I know she has a problem because she told me but she assured it wasnt me. 3 weeks ago she said she was fallin in love with me. I just dont know if shes lying or what. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the help, but my worst fears came true, over an email. I talked to her on the phone and her reasons for ending the relationship were that she just stopped having feelings for me and did have other problems in her life. I asked if she meant it when she said she loved me and she said yes, and now i asked if she was ending it because deep down she has no more feelings for me, she said yes. Sounds like typical highschool behavior to me. Also, a a month ago she told me to let her know if she starts acting weird and finding reasons for not liking me anymore because she gets that way, thats what happened exactly and I called her on it and then she flat out denied it and said I was just trying to get her to like me again. With all this info, im not sad anymore because it really is all her, not me. Thanks again for the help.
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reader, lonely101 +, writes (3 July 2008):
Maybe she's having problems in another part of her life, school, work, family problems? There could be a thousand things going on in her head right now that are stopping her from being 100 percent committed to you. I agree with the past responders the best solution is to ask her. No one can tell you whats going through her head except her.
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reader, hflamo +, writes (3 July 2008):
 you should really talk to her about it to know for sure,
there's lots of explanations...others can only help you so far talk to her tell her how u feel and ask her how she feels.
maybe she's overwhelmed of afraid of the fact that you two are doing things together.Just understand what she's saying and support her feelings no matter what.
there could also just be nothing wrong...and just she needs time to herself, but i assure you nothing is better than asking her yourself.
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reader, dangerouslove. +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Don't jump to conclusions just yet. You need to find out whether or not there is something going on with her that you just don't know about. Maybe she is having family problems, or something with friends? It could be anything.
It sounds like she really does like you alot. The only way to really figure out what is going on with her, is to ask.
Tell her how this is affecting you, and if there is anything you should know. Give her your full attention, and make sure she knows she can trust you.
Communication is the key
Best of luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): it sounds like she's a little confused. I wouldn't take things personal because a lot of people go through phases where they're not ready to make a commitment to someone. people get scared. people aren't sure. it can be very frightening to some people.
she wasn't lying to you. it sounds like she's trying to move on, and I would just let her. you don't want to force or guilt someone to stay with you when you can spend that time looking for someone more suitable.
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