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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:recently my 3 years of long distance has ended and my bf has come to my city.we really love each other.he studies in different college and his college is 1hr from my college.today he came to meet me near my college and said me to come around 3.10pm near a mall but i got a bit late by 10 min.he shouted at me and said that his coming from so far and m doing this.i said that once he also got late.he said me to stop making excuses.then he said he is leaving and went to take a cab.he was on the other side of road and i was on other.i called and said whats going on.he called me an idiot and told me to come near him.i went and he said next time you come and meet me(he said cuz he was angry).few people were looking at us and i felt a bit ashamed.after a bit fight we both took a cab and were heading towards a mall.in the cab also he was shouting in front of the driver.he said me to say sorry.i apologised,still he seemed disinterested.then after sometime he became normal.he started saying love you.moreover,we planned to have lunch today but my mood was off and instead of having lunch we went to a mall.he asked if i want anything,i said no,still he bought me a mocktail and we played airhockey.then we just sat outside the mall.i was hungry cuz i didnt eat anything but his stomach was full since he ate in his hostel.so he said if i wanted to go for lunch.i said a clear no.he seemed disinterested and now m fed up of him.m even having a stomachache.i told him but i guess he thinks it as a drama.he insulted me in public,inspite of that i apologised and missed my lunch but he seems careless.can anyone guide me what to do???one interesting thing to note down is that his college has a holiday for 1 week.his friends have gone to their homes which is in different state but he didnt went.he said he wanted to meet me and wanted to be with me so he doesnt want to go home.but today's incidence shocked me.he doesnt care much for me.i wonder whats happening?
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (30 August 2012):
He obviously feels like there is still a bit of distance between you. "he shouted at me and said that his coming from SO FAR and m doing this."
You need to stop being selfish and talk to your boyfriend about whatever is upsetting him. He is putting what he feels is a lot of time and effort into visiting and spending time with you. Instead of being on time, instead of letting him know you were going to be late, you were simply late. "just ten minutes" is still rude. Even if you don't agree with this, try to understand where he is coming from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are in the same city so how can it be a long distance?
his place is a remote area and not safe,so he doesnt want me to come that long.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (30 August 2012):
Ok, i agree with you then. His behavior is strange.
What i can tell you is this: something is bothering him. He may be stressed out. It might have something to do with you and your relationship, but, it also may not. Please talk to him. Try to find out what is bothering him. Did he have a bad day? Is he lonely? Be caring. Shpw him you love and care about him. Try to enjoy the time you spend together.
An hour is still a bit of a distance to travel. I would consider someone living an hour away a long distance relationship because it still takes time, effort, planning, and money to travel and meet with your significant other.
Is there a reason why you will only meet him halfway and not travel all the way to spend time with him when your schedule allows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are not in a long distance relation anymore.i told him that i can come to half the distance but he said no he will come.thats y m confused.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (29 August 2012):
I think he was angry because he felt like you didn't care enough to be on time to meet him and you didn't tell him that you were going to be late.
His anger seems to be about more than you being late by ten minutes. How often do you go to visit him? If he is the one who is usually making an effort to come see you, but you do not return the favor, he probably feels like you do not care as much about him as he does about you. This explains why he was so angry and why he expressed it inappropriately in front of others.
You two need to have an open and honest discussion about what you can do to help ease the stress of having a long distance relationship.
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