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*aBoo
writes:My male friend say things like you aren't going anywhere and you not like other women before he was saying the opposite he was to busy or he can't be boyfriend material because of his busy schedule now he's spending the weekends with me he has asked me out to have dinner we both agreed in the beginning to take things slow to see if we want to pursue a relationship we both have had a recent breakup he haven't said directly that he wants a relationship with me but he say things as if he is my boyfriend how do he really feel and why haven't he asked me to be his girlfriend? We really enjoy each other company when we are together we are laughing watching movies and I'm cooking for him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2022): He cannot be a boyfriend because of his busy schedule? Really. I bet that does not stop him from having fun, relaxing and having sex if he gets the chance. Strange that. He picks and chooses what he is too busy for. Nine times out of ten when a guy says he is too busy he is no busier than anyone else anyway, he is not working long hours seven days a week so he is not too busy. He simply does not want to get serious or make promises or see you more than suits him. He wants it all easy. He wants all of the pleasure and fun without the serious stuff and problems and bad bits. When a guy says that to me I say goodbye. If you have sex with him he will enjoy and enjoy and want it to happen again. But he still won't want to be your boyfriend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2022):
 I think you need to consider 2 things.
1. this is still rather "new" with the dating for you two. So maybe just try and go slow and enjoy it without putting TOO many expectations on him, just yet. But if you ARE looking for a partner, not just something casual FWB type stuff, then DO NOT have sex until there is an established mutually agreed upon that a RELATIONSHIP is "the" goal here. Not just messing around on weekends.
2. "he can't be boyfriend material because of his busy schedule now"
You need to LISTEN to what a guy tells you. He said HE can't BE BF-material because he is "too busy". So what he kinda said is, "I only want some FWB because we are both single and I want that GF experience without having to put too much effort or investment into it."
So again, I'd keep sex out of the equation IF you do not want something casual or an FWB.
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