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writes: Why do guys never seem to like me for me?? All they seem intrested in is my body becuase they think i'm "hot"! (Female, 19) Reply to this Question
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 I agree with Prunella on this one.. Have you also considered the way you dress when you go out? If it is low-cut tops and short skirts then of course shallow men will be the first ones to approach you..it's all about the signals you are giving out, whether intended or not!..Of course I'm not suggesting that you go for the tweeds-and-brogues look(!) - Just a bit on the demure side, if wearing a short skirt, then maybe cover up a little on top, and if a skimpy top, then team it with a long skirt - you can still look fashionable AND sexy without having it all out on display! Nice men like a bit of mystery...less is more, and 'thinking' men will be turned on by your other (less obvious) attributes! Also taking part in activities (other than pubs and clubs) will make you more interesting to a nicer type of man, less charged up by alchohol - who will take care to discover your personality first. I am talking from personal experience here - give it a whirl anyway, and please let me know how you get on!! Good luck
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (21 April 2006):
 The fact is we all judge people by their appearances initally, it is part of human nature. You are attracted to someones face or body, then you want to get to know them.
The thing about attractive women is that many men are intimidated by their looks. They see this gorgeous girl and think 'she is way out of my league' and never approach her. The ones that do end up chatting her up are the ones with egos the size of New York, who think they are God's gift to women, and are consequently shallow and only want her because she will look good on his arm (or bed).
If you are looking for a man with deeper qualities, you may just have to go out there and find him yourself instead of waiting for him to come to you. He is probably sitting in a corner pretending to read a book and wishing he had the guts to go and ask you out.
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reader, tux  +, writes (21 April 2006):
 A lot of it is because guys and people in general can be stupid. My question though is... Is it all guys that think of you that way or is it just the guys you tend to like in that way that do? I will not lie that looks do matter as well.. but one needs to like their personality as well. but.. perhaps you just havent found the right guy yet. Don't fret about it too much.. you just havent found the guy(s) who'd like you for more than just your body.
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reader, orangesuk +, writes (21 April 2006):
Ok, its probably pretty hard being in your situation coz 'being hot' is usually the first thing that attracts a guy to a girl. Some guys cant get past this stage and dont really care about anything else but they arent all like that. Plus, you will usually be able to guess which guys are like this within about 5 minutes, so just pay them no attention. They will soon realise that you arent interested in somebody who only likes you for your body. But like I say, they arent all like that. Yeah, it may be the first thing guys notice but if they really want to have a chance with you then they will make an effort to like you, not just your body. You just need to make sure you keep your eyes open. Theres not really an easy solution to your problem, you cant exactly make yourself ugly and there will always be sleazy guys around but just keep your eyes open for those who do pay YOU attention, not just your body.
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