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*pendy
writes:What is wrong with me?? why dont guys like me?guys never wanna get serious with me.. they always make me think if they even like me.. they are nice and sweet, calling, texting then they just change and move on without even breaking with me they just disappear from my life.see the thing is every guy i meet says am cute, sexy, friendly, loving, caring and sweet but when i get with a guy it doesn't last. i dont know what I am doing wrong. I am not easy, i flirt with guys and am not clingy but i am always single and my Friends that have been in long term relationships are clingy, constantly calling their bf and asking him where he is etc but am not like that, I think it's good to give guys space but maybe i need to be clingy, obsessive, and possessive like my Friends to keep a man.I am 20 and have never been in a serious relationship, they don't last, they Always leave me:( i never cheat on them or treat them bad:(or maybe i have bad luck with guys :( cos i don't think I am a bad person:(thnx..xx
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reader, LarryGalapagos  +, writes (18 April 2010):
If you think you'll be lucky enough to never get into a serious relationship, you are wrong :)
Eventually you will find the right guy at the right time who will want to be in a serious relationship with you.
(And then you just might wish you were still single :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): here what i have realized. men only go for girls a little bit lower then them (i am not talking bout heights). meaning only girls within their reach. those guys who got your friends, believe me, they haven't reach the same level as you.
just hang on.. it is true to find the ONE.. but once you found it, he will be the one who can control you. for now, you are surrounded by boys.. you need a MAN right ;p
with the other reader who posted earlier - if that is your problem, better get it right before you found your MR. RIGHT ;p
good luck and don't think so much bout it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): I think that if you really wanted to be in a relationship with a guy you would be. It doesn't seem you have any issues attracting men just keeping their interest. Maybe you are acting to uninterested in them. Perhaps if you really enjoy a guy and would like to keep him around you should act like you care by calling him, offering soup when he is sick, cook for him, plan the date, and pay for it once in a while.
I suspect that maybe you are afraid of getting hurt, or are not putting a lot of emotion into the relationships in your past to date. Not a bad thing because maybe those guys where not the right ones or maybe you know that you are not ready for a big commitment yet. You are only 20 and so much life and excitement is ahead of you. Enjoy playing the field, but when you find the right guy who makes your knees weak.....hug him, kiss him, call him and TELL him how you feel most likely he will stick around a little bit longer.
GL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): You are prolly just more mature than guys your age, you may want to consider going for older ones or more experienced guys who know what they want from life.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 maybe what's wrong with you is that you're asking yourself what's wrong with you. Insecurity, lack of self confidence, low self esteem..... they send vibes . I am not kidding. You may act cool and sexy on the outside but if inside you feel that you're not good enough- even if you just feel it unconsciously- all your verbal and non verbal communication will transmit this message : Oh my Gosh, there must be something wrong with me, I must be doing something wrong because all my coupled friends are so much better and cooler and luckier than poor single me, I hope you won't notice that, I hope I can fool you for a good while, I hope you will like me even if I don't deserve it.
It's mysterious, it's uncanny , it's weird, but people actually feel when you judge yourself too harshly and tend to act accordingly- it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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