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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, I have known this man for a year, my friend was interested in him and they ended up kissing and then he wanted my cousin after a couple of weeks they were history, still don’t know why, he also ignored my friend and blamed me for pushing her to him, I don’t know what happened but I found myself in his bed, being with him is the best feeling I have ever felt, I feel like me, he does not judge me, but my friend is not over him, she always invites him when we go out sometimes he comes sometimes he does not, recently she invited him to a function at work despite me telling him not to go he went, I have never been that hurt, a part of me feels like he loves her more than me even though he tells me that I am the one he wants to be with, why doesn’t he respect my feelings, I know what I am doing is wrong but I can’t help it, how can I move on put him behind because I know that he is here to break my heart. How do you move forward form something that feels so good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Well the only way I know how to get over someone like that is to first realise that he's a complete asshole!
He really is, he's trying to play you, I mean he blamed you for the situation with your friend by saying you pushed her on to him, yet he can't help but call over to her when he feels like it, what kind of sleazy bastard acts like that? I mean he can't even take responsibility for his own actions.
The reality of your situation is that you feel really good when you're with him and when you're not you don't, because you can see him for what he is. There are other guys that will make you feel that good even when they're not around, the only bad feelings a guy should give you is the feeling of missing him when he's not there, not worrying what he's doing without you.
He will seriously damage your ability to trust people if you don't leave him now, theres no redemption for guys like him cos as I said he won't even live up to his responsibilities, theres nothing you can do for him, you can't change him and it's unlikely he really cares about you at all.
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