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anonymous
writes:my relationship does,nt feel alive,i feel as though its only me makeing the effort an i dont feel loved.an yes i have spoken an guided him about many things,to try an make it more alive,but the effort is only short lived, ie i should not have to keep going on ,things should be done cus u want to.when in bed its me yet again leading an makeing effort while he just lies there.i have told him what i like but i dont get no return.i think the only time any effort was made was when we got back from seeing his all time fav girl band.so what does that tell me,i am a fun loving woman an it seems that the laughter disappears when im not able to ie like when i feel ill .i just feel like a object with him rather than a person with feelings.i also suggested the other week do something together out house.an teach me to drive away from traffic somewhere open an secluded ,he said you gotta be kidding ,i dont want to lose my no claims bonus insurance,i thought ok enough said.we have been together 5yrs ,an before i tell myself the issues we have dont matter,but now its starting to really get to me,an have a inpact on me ....any advice would be very much appreciated many thanks...thankyou all Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi female reader u say in order for him to change i have to,well i have changed.now we dont do anything not even talk,cus i have took a back seat,nothings happening,so what do i do now many thanks anyway takecare
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): Hi. He isnt making an effort because you are doing everything for him. Ive been in the same position. Try a book called Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl by Sherry Argov. I think the book will help you understand, that in order for him to change, you have to first.
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