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writes: I love to give my bf oral, and i understand that making him cum is not everything, but he never does cum. Although he claims to enjoy it! But it puts me off doin it when i feel like i cant even make him cum.The whole on-goin argument about spit or swallow makes it very clear that guys are expected to cum really. Am i just crap?I've kind of spoken to him about it and he's not holdin back, i dont mind swallowing and he knows this. He says its just not his fault if he doesnt cum.Why doesn't he cum from oral?
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reader, pure shade 5  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 at first me and my wife had this problem i just felt a little unsure and i lied to her and told her i wasnt holding back (i realy was) and like as soon as we would go to the sex part of it i would just let it out and she would be like well i guess i just needed more time on it but try to make him relaxed if he dosent cum then maby he just cant some men never cum from oral
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reader, tuffers  +, writes (23 June 2008):
You haven't mentioned whether you mind your bf cuming in your mouth and whether you like to swallow. I love being given oral but I have a problem cuming because my partner doesn't want me to cum in her mouth so I hold back, worrying that I may cum inadvertantly. If you like the taste, tell you bf that you want him to cum and he may be more relaxed
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (18 April 2008):
 This is difficult to answer without going into a graphic description - and I'm not doing that here.
Think: what sensations are being created in actions that do make him orgasm? What's different about when you do oral? Can you make the sensations similar? Speed of movement?
Spend some time on your own - suck your finger and see what it feels like!!
Does that make any sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): My man doesn't cum from oral either. It disappoints me and makes me feel like I'm just not good enough at doing it. I think he doesn't because he needs a lot of friction (which is probably due to using the death grip when he jerks off) and oral just doesn't provide enough friction. I don't know if it can be changed or if I'll just have to live with the fact that I can never satisfy him that way - but if it could be changed, I'd aure like to know how!
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reader, caroline2312 +, writes (18 April 2008):
i am having the same problem.i like you think it is something i am doing wrong. i thought blow jobs were the ultimate joy for a man. puts me off too cos i end up feeling crap. i will be reading your replies to see if i can get any tips. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Well, from experience I can say that I have never came from oral. I love oral though, and its def something to throw into the mix, but if does not cum from you going down on him, you should not get mad. Try getting him close to the point of orgasm and then let him jerk off on you. Thats what I do at least.
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