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writes:The girl that I love is in a relationship with someone else. She knows that I am really upset and some of the things I have done for her. Today, she suddenly asked me she wants to know everything. I did not expect she would ask me these kinds of things since I thought she doesn't want to know. Therefore, I promised to tell her everything anytime next week.I am afraid she will be furious with me because I will tell her that her current boyfriend is very likely using her as a temporary plan and I have evidence for that too. Also I feel very shy because I done much more things for her, so I am afraid that she will laugh at me even though I don't think it will happen.Why does she wants to know everything when she is in a relationship with someone else?Lastly, how can I tell her everything because I don't even know how to start?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advise and I will tell her everything as I had promised her. I just hope she won't be unhappy.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (16 January 2011):
 It may be hard for you to tell her just what you think of this guy incase it upsets her, but I really think you should just be honest with her and tell her that, she'll appreciate you much more for telling her the truth. But be supportive at the same time. You said you have evidence to prove that she is just his 'part time plan' so make sure you show her that.
You say you don't want to see her upset and unhappy, just think how much worse off she would be when this guy just ups and leaves her, think how upset and unhappy she'll be when you could have warned her...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I mean "everything" is the entire story of me and her form the start to now. I am seriously not sure does she wants to know everything.
And is just hard for me to tell her that her current boyfriend is using her as a temporary plan even though I hate that guy because I don't want her to be upset and unhappy.
I don't mind to be the one who is unhappy since I have been like this for the past 20 months and I am used to people using and betraying me.
All I want her to know is I love her
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (16 January 2011):
What do you mean by 'everything'? Does she want to know what you've been doing? Or does she just want to know what you think of her new relationship? If it's the first, then she has no right to know what you've been doing with yourself as you are not together anymore.
Maybe she's realised that she is now in a rebound relationship and that she misses you, and wants some confirmation from you that she's not doing the right thing. But then again, i'm not a mind reader...
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reader, midnightsky63 +, writes (15 January 2011):
Hey, first things first I hope you're okay :)Secondly, the girl who you love may want to know everything, because she cares about you. She can see that you're upset and because you've done so many things for her, so maybe she's returning the favour.I would start by telling her how you feel about her, and give her reasons why you've done so much for her. Then explain with the evidence that you have, how her current boyfriend is likely using her as a temporary plan. She may react to this badly, so hold her tightly and let her know everything is going to be fine, because she has you, and let her know that you're always going to be there for her, no matter what.Hope this has helped :)
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