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writes: How do you women feel about a guy who likes to know about your sexual past? I have many things I'd like to know about my fiancee's past, but she seems uncomfortable talking about them. However, she will bring something up, out of the blue, and then it haunts me because I want to know more and she won't readily tell. Example last week was she admitted a former lover was very large and it hurt doggy style. It came up in conversation because she said how much she loves doggy with me. So of course, now I'm wondering how big he was, what hurt, whether she enjoyed it anyway, etc. I've asked her to stop telling me so much detail, but at the same time, I appreciate her opening up to me. Its driving me nuts though, but I dont want to pry for more info and make her uncomfortable or think I'm insecure. How do I approach this? I cant let it go. We are to be married, and now I'm a bit obsessed over some crazy sex history, but I believe in honesty if I am to marry her. Why wont she open up...I'm not just some bloke who is going to shag her and leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): She needs to keep the details to herself, and only share what will enhance your relationship. She can share her experience with out being specific or graphic.
While it's fun to find out the sorted details, many guys can't handle it when they find out just how bold their lover has been in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Bad idea! Her instincts are correct. No normal guy wants hear about men who have been there before. Especially the intimate details. My wife made the mistake of telling me about a former lover that was large, could last a long time, and could give her an orgasm during vaginal intercourse....none of which I can do. I don't blame her for previous lovers, but I do resent her for telling me the details. I call it mental terrorism and have to deal with it every day.
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reader, paulomiller  +, writes (25 September 2010):
Forget about this..don't ask! if you do on little while you be addicted on fantasy her doing sex with other guys..if you are jealous type ..you will leave or cheat her.. let her past alone ..you do really love this woman..her past is exciting you as a porn movie. Try focus love in your relationship
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