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writes:well I guess I would like to start off and say I love this girl who probably won't ever love me back. she knows I like her and thats fine I guess and she knows my mistakes just like I know some of hers. Right now I know a secret that she really doesn't want me to tell people about because she is afraid it will ruin the way some people think of her. Unfortunately for me I am her gal pal and all she has to do is ask and I will do what ever she wants. she has control over me and I don't know why. My problem right now is I would like to think that I didn't want to just have sex with her as soon as possible and actually never thought about it when I talked to her or anything like that so we were "just friends" nothing else and just cause it was her I was fine with that. Well as the last little while when by and I saw how things really were i.e: her secret she doesn't want me to tell people I now see things a little different. I wouldn't mind having just sex with her "hitting and quitting" even know that is wrong but in my situation it wouldn't make things worse. She looks fine and to her face I never said she was hot because thats not the classiest thing to say I said you look very beautiful or pretty or cute. this secret could be told so easy and I could text her and say "oh I forgot to say that I didn't remember that thing you said was a secret and told everyone have a nice life". but even know some crap has happened Im not that guy. she still has a place in my mind even know there is some regret/hate in the heart but just cause its her and she has control I cant do anything about it. My question is tell me what to do, telling people the secret is not an option even if she stabbed me and I got hurt by her I wouldn't tell it unless she told me to. I need help as you can probably understand.another question is why does she have this control over me, she doesn't use it to get me to give her rides or stuff only to give her the inside scoop on things like rumors and what people say about her. final question is it so wrong of me to change my priorities from wanting to be her lover not in a sexual way but just being her rock to simply just wanting to have sex with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never said I was going to tell someone her secret, she could be the most awful person in the world to me and its wouldn't come out. I am just upset by the way she treats me like I am just a use. you might say Im a bad person well if you met me you would see otherwise. but one thing I will point out is life is a bitch it hurts people more than others think I might have been hurt badly people may have looked down on me but that shaped me into the person I am today the person who won't sit there and let there life pass them bye the person who will fight for what is right the person who loved and won't be loved back and the person who gives and doesn't count the cost. read what I have to say before you write something like this. I never said I wanted to ruin her reputation I said she should be aware that she told me something that could ruin her reputation and I like that trust she knows I will never tell anyone. I respect her more than anyone I have ever met thats all I need to say to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): with a 'friend' like you, contemplating hurting this girl, and hoping to ruin her reputation, makes me think that perhaps you really are a nasty vindictive person. So sad that your grasp on what is honorable is so lacking. No sane person would want you as a friend, if they came to understand what an exploitive viper you are. i am sorry if others have hurt you in the past, to make you the person you are today.
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