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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm so confused about life, I have no job and no boyfriend. I feel I'm comfortable and confident with myself so I don't understand why guys only see me as a sexual partner and not a girlfriend. Could it be because I emit I want a boyfriend from my pores!??? But if this is the case, how do I stop? I don't think I'm wrong in wanting someone to be in a relationship with rather than just someone for a booty call! I don't know what impression I give men but I really feel like I'm a relationship repellent. As for my career or lack there of, I'm a college grad which in this econonmy doesn't count for much these days, but I've been applying for jobs for six months and nothing! Everything in my life seems like such a challenge! I know exactly what I want out of life and have been making strides for months to improve my situation, but nothing seems to be changing. Is there a secret to happiness I didn't get the memo on? Why does no one seem to like me as girlfriend material or want to hire me. I can't help but think it's my overall personality, but this is what I can't understand I have plenty of friends so I have the capability to connect with people to establish a friendship, but I can't seem to get it together in other aspects of my life. I'm beginning to think there's something up with my personality. What am I doing wrong here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): HI,
Unfortunately I can't help much with the job aspect, the best I can tell you is to keep up your spirits and hopefully something will pop up for you!
Now to the relationship aspect of your life. Have you tried online dating services? My cousin recently got married and her and her husband met on an online dating site. I also know that the dating sites are more helpful for females than males. There are generally more men on the sites giving women a larger selection to choose from (this information is from a male co-worker who uses dating sites). Hopefully this helped and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Well, if you are actually giving out the booty all the time when guys try to get you in the sack so quickly, then that's probably the answer for the "not BF material" stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I feel compelled to reply even though I don't know what advice to give you. I just empathise with you and your situation. I can't get a girlfriend and I don't know why. I've wondered if there's something wrong with me too. At first I thought I was just ugly, but I can't get anywhere with women online even if they haven't seen me so I guess it must be my personality. A lot of people like me and think I'm a great guy. Just no one likes me in that way.
The same with work too. I don't have a good education like you but I'm bright, friendly, creative and eager but I can't get anything. I can't even get a job pushing trollies at a supermarket or as a video clerk.
My life seems to be going nowhere and I feel like I'm trapped in a box with no way out.
None of this helps you of course. I just wanted to say you're not alone. And I admire you for holding out for a relationship, and you're absolutely not wrong for wanting more than to be someone's damn booty call.
I sincerely wish you all the best.
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