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*ebeccaa
writes:Hi,ive asked a question on this topic before but i dont feel i covered everything. My parents split up when i was 7 my mum and i lived on our own for two years then when i was 9 she met somone else who moved in with us. They argued when he first moved in with us, but just like normal arguments, but now its not normal. I didnt really like him that much when i was 9, but i never used to hate him i do now though. when i was 10 my mum had my half sister who is now 6 and we also moved into a new house. Ever since then the arguing has got worse, he will swear (even in front of my sister) throw things around, smash things, and yell if he doesnt get his own way. Even for the tiniest thing if anyone does anything that he doesn't like (but he can do it) such as not not cleaning up, spilling something, not making his tea, not using the bread that's open all these things and loads more. oh, and i forgot to mention, he never cleans up, never does the ironing, washing, or any other kind of house work, it is all left to me and my mum. My mum, sister and me ususally live upstairs out of his way, but there is the odd occasion which is very rare when my mum tries to actually get along with him and act like his slave basicly (i call it playing happy familys) she sits downstaris and tries to ignore his temper and acts like nothing is ever wrong. This is usually when i'm the one who he targets to yell at or i'm the one who is doing some thing wrong according to him. I also get left out and forgotten about. For example our front room has just been decorated so my mum made up this rule that no-one was allowed in their with drinks or food, obviously the rule now only applies for me, i'm the one who is not allowed in there with my tea or if i have a drink. but while they're all sitting in their as a 'family' eating their tea i have to sit in the other room, on my own, having my tea. My sister also has asked if he can go to a doctor to make him less angry. My mum moans to her friends about how she wants to move and how she's found a house to live (this is when they're not playing happy familys) but she never does acctually do anything else about it.My sister has started hitting, pushing and kicking me, i think this is probobly something to do with her dad hitting her and being nasty with her. I dont feel this is right. Is there any reason my mum allows this? Is there anyway i can stop or help stop this? Its just getting worse. Please help. Thanks
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (23 March 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou. There isnt any violence, and when my sister is agressive she never is punished.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): This requires serious healf that we can't give i don't think as we're not proffessionals. Email/Call childline and talk to them. This needs to be sroted and fast especially if violence is beginning to make an appearance. From what i'm reading it sounds that if something isn't sorted out soon and unless both your mum and her partner sit down and talk about this is a controlled anvironment with a proffessional and reach a way to deal with this - it may be a serious possibility that both separate - either temporarily or permanatly. As for your sister, violence is not on and aggressive behaviour can get her into a lot of trouble later on unless it's dealt with properly and she's discliplined. Whenever my brother is aggressive (slams doors etc) an immediate punishment is put into affect that is severe such as grounding for a week or no TV etc getting something taken away that he prizes for a set amount of time. But i would advise seeking the helf of a proffessional such as childline. Good luck!
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