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female
age
41-50,
*estiny28
writes:HelloI have been reading up on the threds about why men really look at other women when they are in a relationship! Due to the fact that this problem is happening more and more frequently with my man on an everyday basis and it makes me wonder....I have been with him for almost one year now. We are great together and we have always liked to call each other true soul mates...However he knows a bit about my past and relationships but decided not to bother with the past and focus on us and the future. All he knows he how ex's have treated me and in what ways it destroyed me. He knows how much I hate when men look at women whilst with their partners. In the beginning he only had eyes for me, when a pretty woman walked by he didn't even bother with them. Now some time has gone by and I have really really noticed he is fully looking while with me and it's pissing me frankly off! He tells me how he loves, adores me and how he wants to get engaged and marry etc but then he looks as well which only makes me take his words as nothing. I don't even enjoy going in public anymore because he will look more than before. We have had discussions and he always denies. I feel I gotto do something about it - hence why I am here and was reading others comments. I will talk to him today - knowing in advance that he will deny and it will be an argumentative topic which will never be resolved. My question - How can a male look at other women and then have the nerve to say I love you? How can a man expect a woman to take their lovey dovey words seriously when the effect of it starts to fade off and goes in and out as a result of his actions? If you truly love someone and have only eyes for your future wife, then why do the others matter?I don't know if I can live like this for the rest of my life with a man who automatically puts himself and myself down. I respect myself way to much to find this ok. If he continoues that he can do that on his own as a single man! Please adviceThanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Its natural to look at people. The thing is out of respect for you he shout not oogle women in front of you thats just rude. I also feel insecure when my boyfriend takes a quick glance at an attractive women and it used to put me in a mood all day and would cause silly arguments. Iv seemd to mature out of this though. I had to ask myself, well why didnt i get mad when he glanced at that really fat women over there, or that old women, or that man for that matter! People look at people, not just poeople they find attractive. If he simply takes a quick glance just try and relax. If he pretty much stares at an attractive women in front of you to the point where hes not even paying attention to you, then that may be a problem. Thats where it turns into him being disrespectful of you and rude. Also it obviously shoes that he cant control himself very well if he cant even peel his eyes off the girl. But other then that you really have nothing to worry about.
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