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writes:My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs. our relationship was the result of an affair that started as friendship. He is 20 yrs older than me. We have been incredibly happy for 8 yrs. He recently turned 70 and now seems to need attention from younger women, as young as 25. He readily gives out email address and if women email him always has to mention how attractive they are. Why this need to tell virtual strangers they are attractive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2017): Sounds as if he's casting his net wide to see who will bite and he's doing it right in front of you. WTF?
Has he always behaved like this? What pretence does he find for giving out his email address?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 May 2017):
 If this all started from an affair then it can be assume that one (or both of you) is a cheater and destroyed a relationship(s) to be together instead of going about being single through the honorable channels. Now I am not a believer in "once a cheater always a cheater" however a cheater needs to work extra hard to prove their trustworthiness. Marrying a cheater is always risky business. As far as his current behavior goes if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 May 2017):
 It appears he feels he is getting old and he needs reassurance that women still find him attractive. I would be deeply upset if this was my husband. You mention your relationship started from an affair? Was it him that was married? My guess is that he is looking for a younger women because he does not want to get old. Sit down and talk to him. You need to be honest with him about how this is making you feel.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (22 May 2017):
 I think this is a question you should be asking him and not seeking speculation from strangers.
At his age, entering the latter part of his life, there are many thoughts crowding in on daily existence.
If you feel threatened by his behaviour then offer him the chance to leave. It is then time for him to make his mind up if he wants you, or some fantasy woman.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 May 2017):
 He's feeling old. With all due respect, I don't know why the young women are going for him. Does he have money?
He sounds like he's becoming slimey and I think you should nip it in the bud asap. Get therapy, if he is receptive to it. If he isn't, your marriage may not be important enough to him.
How do you feel about him? How has the age difference affected you? It seems like he's really hung up on his age. How long were you together before marriage?
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