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writes:I have been married for two years. About 4 months ago, my husband decided he didn't want to be married anymore, citing reasons like he's having a midlife crisis (at age 24!!) doesn't know what he wants from life and wants a fresh start. Since then he has been heartless, vicious and not even trying a little to make things work. This of course devastated me...the marriage has always been rocky but I thought we were still plugging along. Well, I am on the verge of moving out for good and lately he has been crying to me about how much he will miss me when I am gone and who knows? maybe after we split we will decide to stay married, and loving on me etc. It's driving me crazy! What I can't understand is how he can say all of these things and yet do nothing to prevent me from leaving. He says he just needs time and I feel he has had enough. Do you think this guy is worth staying with? Should I hold out hope that once I leave for good he will come to his senses and if he does, should I take him back? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Just make a point. If he says this again say something like "Its you that wants this, you've made your decision so stop wollowing over it"
He sounds very confused...you can if you don't feel mucked about by him. People that are confused generally need that kick up the arse. I suggest you try that first.
In the mean time, try and move on from it. If he comes back soon then its your call. Any longer then hopefully you would've moved on, and I suggest you continue on that moving on path by then.
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