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writes:Kso, I am in grade 9.. [Highschool of course.] And everytime I go on Facebook, my mom thinks I am like doing some sort of drug deal or something, and then when I talk about my friends too my mom, she is always like, "Do they do drugs?" And I understand she is concerning, and then when I come home from school she always like checks my eyes, and such too see if I am high or something, and my grades aren't really bad, soo I don't see where she is getting this from? And my dad thinks I hang around druggies all the time, and what does he know? I never see him? And then somehow my grandma thinks I do drugs, and drink? This stuff doesn't even come into my mind, like I don't think about doing this stuff? And then.. in grade 6 I had to go to the hospital because I lost a Fallopian tube.. and the doctor said only older people get it, soo then my mom gave me the sex talk and thought I was pregnant, and I had to get an ultra sound.. And then a few days ago my back was hurting.. and soo she thought I was pregnant again.. and it's not like I look like a drug addict, I don't hang around them, my friends are the most innocent people you will ever meet! And I don't ask her for money.. soo where would I get the drugs? And I don't skip school, I never have... Like I understand that I am in highschool, and she is concerned, but not all highschoolers are like that.. And when me and my friends act immature, and stuffs... because we haven't quite hit the "mature" side yet.. she thinks we are like drunk, and high.. And my dad spazzes all the time on the phone because he thinks I am always stoned.. So I was wondering what I could do to prove that i don't do that? Because I always tell them, make them read my convo's let them search me, and it just doesn't cut it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): Ah! The teenage years...My mom did the same thing with me then and she still does sometimes now. I'm guessing you're their first or only child, just because of how paranoid they are.Its expected however, parents do act like that but its out of love...annoying love...but love non the less why they do this. Here's how I suggest you handle this- "Reverse Psychology", it helps actually, it made my mom stop doing it as much. Since I'm sure you've tried over and over again to convince them you don't do drugs.... Start to admit that that you do, or at least make it seem that way. This causes them to back off plus its kind of fun because it make them observe their words and actions towards you, for example:"Ok mom! Yes! I do use drugs. I didn't at first so I figured what's the point? My parents don't believe me, I may as well do it since I'm accused of it daily."Or"Yep! I bought drugs from the Principal and we just go high in his office! We're going clubbing next week too."Try to be sarcastic about it but in an annoyed tone of course. That's the last thing they'd want to heard and when they get upset about it let them know that they not trusting you makes it worse. Let them know that they taught you right from wrong and you know the difference so they need to stop it or you will start doing it...its kind of like a crossroads.Of course you shouldn't do drugs but its just talk. But they don't want to be the reason for that possibility in their heads therefore they should stop trying to provoke you.Also let them know you're a teenager for crying out loud and you have hormones."Stop pushing me in a corner mom I'm 15, not pregnant."Its normal to be a bit rebellious.Have fun! Good luck
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 unfortunatelly all parents go through a phase when they are way too concerned and paranoid about their child doing drugs etc. but your folks are over the line here...
you should tell them if they are so worried they can take you to a drug clinic and let the experts do all kind of test to see if have done drugs. but on the condition that if they learn from this that you are not on any kind of drug they will have to respect you and your personal space, stop searching you and even see a therapist themselves.
show them with facts that you are honest and demand the minimum freedom you deserve!
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