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writes:I went out with a girl for a long time at work and I thought it was special to me,we are both adults. Anyway by chance I found out she was seeing someone else at work. I was devastated. I walked away saying listen I respect you so I respect your choices, you deserve love from whomever you choose, best of luck with it. At the time I didn’t know who she was seeing but of course curiosity took over and I found out, the guy is know for being a player arrogant etc I sure you all know the type, the ones whose personalities suits his requirements from , if he doesn’t want anything from you he won’t be nice to you etc.I knew loads about him but could never say. The months followed and my ex went from being warm to me to cold playing games trying to get my attention all sorts but I never knew what she really wanted. I was certain she wanted to know I still liked her, but I decided I could o longer show this. Time went on I was still hurting as much as I tried to put it behind me, for some reason she kept doing little things to remind me she was still there in an indirect way, which I guess I sort of liked!!. Any way I started to work with a new girl and we got on really well, she is attractive and a lot younger than my ex, but I decided I would keep it as a friendship (already made that mistake) and we became the best of friends, but you could see my ex was getting jealous dirty looks at my new friend hot cold communication with her. Again I couldn’t understand why. Did she not have someone new ??Anyway I got promoted I had the choice to stay at the same offices or move, I decided enough I have to end this “thing”. I decided to move offices, rightly or wrongly I emailed my ex (because I wanted to say what I wanted to say without being distracted) I told her I have no regrets and I’m not afraid to say I wanted her heart and sometimes things don’t work out which I understand, but I don’t understand why she was so hot and cold with me. I regret in the end we couldn’t find a friendship gain, but please stay safe and beautiful. I added please don’t respond or wish me well and I wish you love and happiness always. God bless.I left.Within weeks of me leaving, it appears or there is an indication she has gone into depression and there is further indication she has now fallen out with the other guy (whether it was still on or not was never known or asked).Since leaving I have kept in touch with the new girl I worked with regular as she was a good friend.The latest thing is the ex has been asked to do some different work for a few weeks and she has decided to sit alongside my new friend !!??? When they were always so hot and cold, my new friend says she doesn’t have to sit with her she can work else where !!!Can anyone suggest a view on all this odd behaviour please ???
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 November 2009):
She's trying to stay close to you through your new friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): hey man. she is letting you no that she wants you back. and the reason she is sitting by your friend is because in the beginning she was jelouse and now she wants to no how your doing. she is depresed because she knows she made a mistake. i say you get her back man. go for it. theres always room for second chances. :)
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