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writes:My ex boyfriend brokeup with me three months ago, about one month later he got a new girlfriend. In the last three weeks he has been texting me, but i haven't repiled to any of them. It use to be once a week he would text me, now it's everyother day. I don't want to reply because then i will miss him. We have a class together and my friend says he looks at me a lot. I don't get it, what is he trying to tell me, or nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): You should take some time to figure out your feelings toward him first. So far, you're worried about speaking to him because of how you will feel. If you don't think that you're okay with working on being just his friend right now you're correct with not replying to his texts. If you are interested with being his friend then reply with caution. Since he's sending them more frequently then before, I would reply to some of them and ignore the rest. Hopefully he'll be able to cool off or understand that you're not committed to him and you're not hanging on his every word. If you are interested in him as a boyfriend you should approach this with even more caution. If he seems interested in renewing your relationship then you need to make it clear that nothing will happen until he's out of his current relationship. Otherwise he made just be using the texts as a means to keep you interested while he explores his potential with the girl he's with right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): You are doing the right thing.No contact always helps.Maybe he looks at you to gauge your reactions.Don't even look at him.Sometimes its really hard to leave the past where it belongs but thats the right thing to do.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (17 May 2010):
 He doesn't know what he wants. One day he is interested in her, the next day you. It's for that reason why you shouldn't talk to him. Your feelings will just get hurt because he is unsure about his.
This is actually quite common. It only took him a month to get over you and get another girlfriend so again - don't talk to him. You'll only end up getting hurt.
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