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writes:Hi - can anyone help?A year ago my girlfriend ended our relationship after 2 years. I was certain that she was meeting someone else but could never prove it - she says that she wasnt - but a couple of days later I spoke to her and she said to leave her alone as she was in a relationship - I spent the next few days acting like an idiot trying to convince her it was the wrong decision,Eventually I sent her an email saying it was the right decsion and that I wished her well and wouldnt contact her again.After her a few months she contact me by email - she chatted and then went really cold on me then disappeared - this has continued since then - every few months she will send an email - always the same hi hw are you - then disappears - at the end of the year she arranged to meet me to give me some of my old stuff back - prior to meeting she was all chatty - but when we met nothing. I sent her an email saying its not right the way she treats me - and for her to not contact me againI ddint hear anything for a couple of months - she has sent me a few emails which i ignored, she has tried to add me to msn - which I ignored - she then sent me a message which i responded - she said a few words then disapperaed again- this is doing my head in - as i still have feelings for her - what should i do - should I email her again and just say stop it - its not right and in future I will ignore any messages she sends - Im not a nasty person - so hate being ignorant or want to tell her were to get off in a nasty way - I would like to tell her how i feel and that shes playing with my feelings and its not right - but think this is playing to her - what should I do ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni blocked on her msn and email - but for some reason she sent a message last night and it came through - I answered it - but I wasn't forth coming with much chat - she said I best go - so I asked why and she said I think you know why? I asked what she ment but wouldn't say - then she's really meloncolly - she's lost weight - she's a lot wiser now etc - eventually she signed off byt said night normally she would just vanish - what she upto? -
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi update
i blocked on her msn and email - but for some reason she sent a message last night and it came through - I answered it - but I wasn't forth coming with much chat - she said I best go - so I asked why and she said I think you know why? I asked what she ment but wouldn't say - then she's really meloncolly - she's lost weight - she's a lot wiser now etc - eventually she signed off byt said night normally she would just vanish - what she upto? - 2 hours ago
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 You already said you would ignore her, so no need for another email saying that. Just do it. Delete her information and block her. She likes playing with you for a little bit of fun. Don't give her the satisfaction.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 You arnt a bad person for wanting to get on with your life. You need to make it clear though that she isnt to message you again.Once I had to yell down the phone "STOP F**** CALLING ME!"at an ex that just wouldnt stop. So I would delete her and block her from sending further mails.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Yep. Tell her never to contact you again. You need to erase these feelings for her from your heart. That's possible, you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): I think you should do yourself the favor of erasing her from your mind. Pretend she was never born. There are over three billion women in the world...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): You should continue to ignore her. You said you wanted no further contact. There is no need to contact her to re-state a point you both understand.
You may find your e-mail client has a filtering option that can make ignoring someone automatic, and so not dredging up past emotions each time.
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