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writes:Can I please get some opinions on something that recently occurred.Last week we had our works Christmas party and it was a really nice evening except that I think my boss was avoiding me...Now just to give you some background - I barely speak to him during work unless he needs something- He's never quite warmed to me in the 3 years he's been there and I have no idea why. I have tried to make conversation with him but he gives me 1 word answers and seems in a hurry to get rid of me.I cause him the least stress out of all my colleagues as I just get on with my work and don't bother him unless I need too.Anyway at the Christmas party I noticed that if he was sat talking to someone and then I'd go over and sit next to them to talk to someone else he would get up and go elsewhere,this happened a few times during the evening. Also at 1 point he was asking everyone if they wanted a drink but completely ignored me and I saw him mingling with everyone but didn't say 1 word to me!I have always found him a bit awkward anyway but it really annoyed me last week.When we were back in the office I thanked him for a nice party and he just mumbled something and hurried off.I honestly cannot think of anything I've done for him to behave this way. Any thoughts??
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 December 2014):
 My guess is he never warmed to you, because you aren't "his cup of tea". You are an employee he just don't really feel connected to, or WANT to be social with. It happens.
I had a boss who didn't like me, because I was a little immature and full of pranks and laughter (but professional when guests were around - I was 18 and working at a 5 star hotel) He was Mr. Icicle towards me. MAYBE 2 words were spoken TO me the days we worked together. I just went on my best behavior when he was around and by the time I was leaving, HE threw me a going away party - something he had NEVER done for anyone else. NOT because he was happy to see me go, but because I had grown on him. LOL But yea for a good part of the time I was there, he thought I was obnoxious (which I properly were) - HE taught me to reign in on the fun at work, and I taught him to let his hair down occasionally.
Not everyone you work with will like you. YOU won't like everyone you have to work with either. IT's just how it is.
Keep being professional and polite. You are there to work, not be his BFF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2014): No he has a girlfriend.I posted this question.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 December 2014):
 I think he either doesn't like you very much OR he likes you a lot and in his mind it's likes you TOO much. Is he married?
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