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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We love each other very much and we are even making plans for marriage after we are both done with school. Because we are both in college we tend to make love during the day between classes. The sex is great but afterward he usually runs out of the door to class or to study without any sort of affection... no hugging, no kissing, no touching, nothing! And when I try to hug or kiss him, he literally pushes me away. This hurts me so bad and it leaves me feeling empty and rejected when he's gone. I've talked to him about this on numerous occasions and every time I bring it up, he either denies it or makes up excuses. Today, I gave him a taste of his own medicine and after we had sex, rather than begging for affection, I quickly got dressed and kicked him out. He began begging me to kiss him goodbye or hug him or touch him. It got to the point where I even saw tears in his eyes. I couldn't bear to see him like this so I quickly revealed to him the motive behind my actions. He says he wants to do better but I seriously doubt he will change.So my question is, why does he do this to me? Why does he deliberately shove me away from him after we experience something as intimate as making love?
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Too much emotion for him, and when you fought fire with fire he actually came alive in his emotions. That's a good thing!
Why drop him now, he's learning to trust you and his emotions, this is all good, why turn away now?
You're both on learning curves I think there's more to learn here, at least until, you've learned something..
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