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writes:I love women and don't have a lot of experience with them (either friends or girlfriends). But I'm having a difficult time understanding something and I don't know if it's "normal."I have a friend. Long story short, we developed a close relationship and friendship. She's the closest person in my life and she has said the same about me. When we met we talked all the time. Over time it became less. After 2 years we're still close and I care for her deeply. When we're together (it's a ldr) things couldn't be better and I feel closer to her than ever before. But then when we part, sometimes i'll go days or even weeks without hearing a word from her despite my sending occasional emails. Even when I email out of concern (like her being in a hard-hit area by a recent storm), she doesn't always get back to me. I have another long-distance friend, a girl I've known for 3 years. We're good friends and we seem to care for each other like close friends. If she wants to get ahold of me, she emails and I answer within the day. If I want to say something to her, I email and sometimes hear back immediately, sometimes don't hear back at all. She's active on the social networks so I know when she's been online and when she hasn't.Both ladies lead busy lives (single mothers with full-time careers). I used to fret a lot about it when I didn't hear from them. But over time I've learned just because two people don't talk everyday doesn't mean they aren't good friends. Still...I don't understand why women sometimes take their time responding to a simple note (be it email, text or VM). Am I still seeing this wrong or asking for too much? (I've never had communication problems with my male friends like this.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reassurance, MissKin. I didn't think it was something only women did. I just don't understand it sometimes. Actually at this time last year I was a wreck because I used to take it all way too personally. But I've learned over time that people, men and women, don't always do things the same way.
I have mentioned it to the first friend I spoke about. She's explained she doesn't always have a chance to respond. But she's also mentioned that when she does have time, she doesn't always have the greatest memory (she has adult add) to go back and reply. The second friend mentioned to me that she's online all the time but isn't good replying to emails sometimes.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Lol! i ask this all the time about my boyfriend!! :P so it's not just a girl thing. My boyfriend can take like forever to reply to a facebook comment and/or a text and emails? i dont even GET a reply :P
It's not just women, its people individually. I reply instantly to almost everything even though i'm super busy most of the time! Some people just have a different outloud on things and responding to things falls on a back burner. I wouldn't take it personally. And there's no answer to ur actual question. Ur not asking for too much... but i think u shud just accept the way it is. u cud always talk to them about it. :) see why they are the way they are. best of luck.
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