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writes:i lost my virginity a year ago and everytime me and my boyfriend have sex his penis slips out half way through. is this my fault? can anyone explain why this happens?
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 I don't think it's anyone's fault. Let me explain this simply. If you lie still and he's on top and inside you, and he moves back, his penis pulls out part of the way. If you move as well, it means for the same distance moved by him his penis comes out twice as far. So when both partners move rhythmically together you both have to be careful not to get too mobile or yes, he will come out.
One way around this is for you to be on top and to tell him to lie still while you move. You should be able to feel when you move too far. Practice is fun and you'll get better. Alternatively let him enter you while you are on your hands and knees, you remain still and he does all the moving.
Time and practice will get it right, however it's a very common problem so don't worry about it.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (11 February 2009):
sometimes this can happen if you have changed posistions, but guide him back in and he will stay put. maybe tell him not to thrust out too much, maybe he is pulling away too much and slipping out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): It's probably performance anxiety. This is when for whatever reason he loses his erection during intercourse and worries about it. When starting to have sex the next time he worries that he'll lose it again which causes him to lose it. It's a vicious circle.
The best way to break this vicious circle is for you to reassure him that it doesn't really matter that much (even if it does!) and that you're quite happy to settle for a kiss and a cuddle instead (even if you're not!). The next time you're getting close to intercourse tell him that you would much rather just have a naked cuddle and a good old fondle about. He could end up as horny as hell, but save it until the next time when he should be raring to go and hopefully all will be well again. No matter how much he stabs you in the back with it, keep it at arms length.
Once he's got over worrying about how he's going to perform you'll be getting the full monty again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks for your responses. I was just wondering if him losing his erection means I am not good enough in bed :'(
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reader, VampyricHybrid +, writes (10 February 2009):
 I honestly doubt that it is your fault. Or his for that matter. But like the person who commented before me I have to ask. Is he able to keep an erection?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): No, it's the guy's fault as because he lost his erection he can't continue.
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