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writes:I've been casually dating a guy that used to call me every night. We'd talk for hours. He's a nice guy. He invites himself everywhere I go and invites me everywhere he goes, heintroduces me to his friends and his family know about me. Suddenly, he calls me in the day and says he'll call me back but never does. If he calls me in the evening he will say he fell asleep and ask me if I m mad at him...i would believe him but I see him on whatsapp up until sometimes 3am. Am I right in feeling like he's not speaking to just me on these terms at the moment? Or should I give him the benefit of the doubt? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2015): You mentioned you were "casually dating." This means that you haven't really come very close to a commitment just yet.
He may be taking it slow and exploring his options as he evaluates his own feelings. You can't rush people when it comes to their feelings for you. It is best to allow them to catch up with yours. I've said this time and time again, you shouldn't gauge how someone feels about you by how quickly they respond to messages. Some people don't like those kinds of constant intrusions on their time. They have no idea when to expect a message from you, and messages may come at an inconvenient time.
If you are casually dating, he is not committed to you; so either of you have your options open to see other people, until such time that you mutually agree to be exclusive.
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reader, Zoroll +, writes (9 September 2015):
 Purposefully looking for things like 'last online times' is never going to be good, and will most probably make you even more paranoid.
If this guy took the time to introduce you to his friends and family then the clear signs are there he wants to give your time to you.
Whats maybe happened is that he got too close to commitment which caused him to become distant with you, it might take him time to think about what he needs.
If you were comfortable enough with each other try and talk about where you stand!
Hope it all works out :)
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