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writes:Dear qupid,I have been married for two months. My husband was married 11 years ago and he has a child with his ex wife. Yesterday the phone rang and he did not pick up however he did state it was his ex wife.. he did not return the call throughout the day however he did take a short run to his parents to drop off some papers. I had a feeing he called her during that time and whenI checked his phone i was correct. His log showed that he made the call to her during that time. Why does he need to call behind my back. I know they are planning a jewish celebration for her however why is it that he is not including me? I feel very angry . she is remarried and has a new baby. I dont understand why he is doning this
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Hi luisav,
I agree with the other Aunt. He is probably scared of your reaction.
Why not talk to him and tell him you will feel more comfortable if he is more open about his relationship/discussions with his ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): If it bothers you why don't you ask your husband why he is doing this and tell him you are feeling angry about his calling her behind your back...don't blame him for your own feelings but just say I feel this when you do this and what you could do to be my hero is this, what do you think?
Say it in a non threatening, non angry non judgemental manner so that he can "hear" that he hurt you. Give the man a chance to correct his behavior.
I am not going to tell you that you don't have right to your feelings but it is what you do with those feelings that count.
So good luck. You are asking the wrong people, talk to your husband and talk some more until you get it worked out, come to emotional closure on it and move on.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Most likely it's because he's afraid you'll react badly to his talking to her in front of you. He might not want you to overhear and is hiding something but I really think it's because of your reaction. Are you jealous of his ex-wife?
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