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writes:I am 20 years old and met this guy a year ago. He wanted to hang out and I said ok. We got to know each other and I thought we had a lot in common. I have never fallen so hard for a guy...ever. He kissed me on the third time we hung out. When I had to leave he didnt want me to leave. He asked if I was looking for a relationship and I said yea. He later would go a couple days without talking to me and then would come back. And then go away again but he always came back.Well summer came and went and we lost touch but I thought about him every second of everyday. Didnt hear from him. When we returned to school we ignored eachother like it was really awkward. Other times we stared at each other right in the eyes. In October he caved and texted me saying he was sorry for ignoring me and wanted to know if I still liked him. I said I did and we hung out ever since. We went hiking, ordered pizza a couple of times, watched movies together and talked constantly. Would see eachother almost every day if not every couple of days, busy with school both in college. He asked what I wanted in a relationship and I told him. He later said we were fwb. I was crushed the guy I wanted didnt want me I guess. But we continued to hang out. I spent the night once with him and I loved sleeping in his arms. Felt very safe and protected. Then we had another break for Christmas. Kissed me goodbye and everything. It was a month off and he texted me everyday asking how I was. Missed me at midnight. Good morning at 730 in the morning when he knew I was still sleeping. Wanted to know how I was and stuff.Well when we got back to school he arrived a day earlier than he was supposed to surprise me. I saw him that night and we talked and snuggled. The next day we went to the gym together. I went and then he left all the sudden and said he was going to his room. I texted him that night and asked if he was mad. He said that we should just be friends. Another time I asked why he didnt want a relationship and he said he didnt see me like that. I said you dont like me and he said Care bear I do like you. Its just so complicated.I was devastated and then I didnt talk to him. A week later he came back and wanted me back. Said I was worth fighting for. I didnt want to see him. But he came over anyway. He wanted a hug, I refused. But he hugged me anyway and just apologized up and down and put his nose in my hair. And just held me.But this semester we havent hung out like we used to. And then he came over drunk one night and said he was sick of immature relationships and wanted me to be there for him. I said when I wanted you, you didnt want me. And he said he was sorry. I told him then not to remember me. I was officially done with him. He texted me again the next morning and apologized. I felt pretty good about myself. Was finally not living with a heart ache.Then this week he texted me and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. I said I didnt know what I wanted. He said he was just plain lonely. Asked if I was lonely. Wanted to know why I was angry with him.Why does he do this to me? I mean Im your average nice girl, a good kid. I fell so hard. Why doesnt he want a relationship. He said fwb had never been so complicated he had been with so many other girls and it was never like that for him. What does that mean?
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (24 March 2013):
 This guy isn't worth hanging around. He should know what he wants from you after a number of times of hanging out. You were right to end things because he was stringing you along and seems like he hadno.real plans of being with you. Lay off the contact with him and take a break for yourself. Or if you feel you don't need a break, then go out on a few dates with some guys and move on. But don't let there be any contact between you two. And if you ever want to try things with him again in the future, make sur you make him prove himself worthy of your attention before trying things again.
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