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Why does he torment me?

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Question - (21 October 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 July 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *inkbees09 writes:

I already wrote about this guy but feel I need to write more. Anyway, there's this guy that I use to like last year. He'd call me beutiful and stuff one day, but then the next he's throwing salt in my hair and calling me ugly! So I started really hating him because he almost stopped being nice to me. Then I had the spring trip with the band and he was there and we were alot nicer to eachother. It was really nice. And for the rest of the year he was still mean but it had lessened alot.

Well this year was starting out pretty nicely but now its turned weird. This one girl that he's really good friends seems to change the way he is towards me. Like in the school day when she's around he's really mean to me. Then after school during band pracitce when she's not there, he's nice to me and calls me beutiful. And I'm like wtf??

And then yesterday I was with the band all day and this one girl makes fun of the way I talk and say her name. Well she came to me and asked me to say her name and they guy was beside her. Well I said her name and the guy was like "Why do you talk like that, do you have some f-ing speech problem?" And I swear to God I was about to kill him...again. I don't understand how one minute he's being nice and wonderful and then the next minutes he's cutting my throat! When I approached my moma bout this she said that maybe the guy doesn't want his friends knowing that he likes a black girl. I'm black and he's white btw. I know that this probably has nothing to do with anything but it makes me wonder.

And then last year when I got a boyfriend, who was white, the guy was all like "This is your first boyfriend huh?" and he said it all jokingly. And yeah this guy was my first boyfriend, so what? And then he said "[my name] be rolling with them white boys!" I just wanted to punch him in the f-ing face! Then later on in the week he got a girlfriend and he whispered in my ear in a class "You see? I have a girlfriend now too. Except she's my own color." I was so close to tears and punching him, I swear! But I didn't. This was all last year btw. And then when the loser of a guy broke up with me 2 weeks later, this guy was actually being nice again. In the class he would normally throw salt in my hair, he told his friend beside him not to do it and asked me if I was alright. This boy confused me so much.

So what do you think this guys deal is? Did/Does he like me, or was he just tormenting me?

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A female reader, young_and_foolish  +, writes (5 July 2009):

yeah he's just tormenting you..

like what kind of effing mind game was he trying to play.

I'd suggest cutting this person out of your life as much as possible. You should let anyone who does the things that he's doing get to close to you... ugh I'm sickened and sorry that you know him.

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (24 October 2007):

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Pinkbees09 agony auntI need more hlpe people! He keeps making fun of the way I talk but this time I just ignored him.

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (23 October 2007):

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Pinkbees09 agony auntAnd today my gym class, which he's in, we ran 2 laps around the track. Then on the turn the guy was like "there goes [my name] and her white self" i ran back at him, I can't remember if I hit him but he ran. Stupid fag :[

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (21 October 2007):

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Pinkbees09 agony auntHe won't listen to me though.

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