A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes: There is a man I work with I spoke of before.. We were friendly and semi-intimate which led to work HR issues which happened over a year ago. Since and during the 'crises' I always am kind and assist him when needed because it is my job. Recently, I confronted him about his being hot and cold toward me. We were never allowed to discuss what HR was doing regarding us behind the scenes, and I just couldn't stand his being nice on e day and not the next, just very confusing for me. He accepted, and was so happy to recieve a b-ay token from me two weeks ago, and the next time I saw him he was cold again. I had had enuff. So I confronted him about the fact that we had Never talked about what had happened with HR ,and that I wish he had come to me about it, or I to him. Long story short this led to my simply asking him for my peace of mind if he simply prefered me to stay away, and if he still wanted to know me in this life or not? I put it out there for him. He told me he had too much to straighten out in his private, personal and business life to know me at this time. I had him repeat it so I clearly understood, "at this time". I was hurt, but decided to cut him out now, aas I plan to transfer out anyway. The rest of that day, I noticed him starring at me, and people noticed I looked sad about something. I said nothing. Well, the VERY next day, after being 'crushed', he calls my name out and says hello to me. I couldn't even respond. The next two times I had crossed paths with him, he cheerfully says HELLO to me... Could some one tell me what the hell this is about??? Is this what you call a sick mind game or something??? This back and forth crap? Ever so devastating to boot! I'd ask him why he's even saying hello after saying he wants nothing to do with me at this time...but I just don't have the energy and hope to get this transfer OUT! Any ideas mindset of his? Reminds me of people who like hurt there spouse or someh thing to see what they can get away with, hoping that they still return to them after such abuse??? I dunno? Do You?
View related questions:
I work with Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! |
