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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:When out with my boyfriend (of 7 years) sometimes women come up to talk to him. It has happened probably about 8 times in the past 2-3 years where a woman comes up and is all "Oh hi [his name]! Nice to see you here! How are you?" and very friendly and familiar with him. When they leave and I ask him, "who was that?" he always pretends not to know who they are for like 5-10 minutes... "I have no idea... that was weird..." when I push him he admits that they are from "school' "work" "old friend" etc. Usually if I push hard enough he miraculously remembers their names and the conversations he has had with them. Now I know I sound naggy and irritating, pushing to find out, but the thing is, obviously he knows these women so why does he pretend not to for a while? He acts like they were total strangers. He does the same thing when women add him on facebook as a friend. I'll say "who is that?" he'll say "I don't know..." but eventually he remembers everything. They are always total shockers to me because he never mentions female friends that he has at work, school or where ever though he does mention his male friends. I always feel so uncomfortable and awkward when they come up. It's embarrassing.Also worrying because I don't get why he tries to hide them and cover them up? It makes me suspicious and distressed that I can't trust him all the way... he has a history of lying to me, especialy about other women, so when these incidents happen it puts me on edge. I hate the way he tries to deflect my questions which are always very simple and straight forward. It makes me feel like he is buying for time while he comes up with a good story for who these women are. I wish he could be honest.Ladies what would you think if you were in this situation with your boyfriend? Why does he lie about these women and pretend not to know them?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 He could be doing it to avoid confrontation with you, would you say that you are a jelous person? be honest with yourself. he probably just lies about it to you so he doesnt need to answer a thousand and one questions from you, and if he feels that you are a little insecure or jelous then he probably doesnt mention other females in case it upsets you or hurts you. Have a word with him, tell him that it is ok for him to have female friends but you would prefer him not to lie about it because it makes you feel that you need to question the trust you have for him.
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