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*hicintrouble22
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months, he basically lives with me considering he stays the night at my house every night. We have a issue lately I have been really under the weather. My job seems to be in a rut and he really has not been supportive what so ever. The other day I tried to call him to see what time he would be home and he didnt call me till right when I got off work, the reason I needed to know was I had to leave to go somewhere and he needed the key into the house. He basically bit my head off telling me he was leaving "his" house and was on his way.(I will get back to the "his" in a minute). I told him I would wait, when he arrived at "my" house he got in the truck and "sat there, a conversation finally sparked up and he was telling me that on his way over he stopped and did a job. Since I know what he does for a living I know it does not take 5 minutes to do. Quickly I asked him why he couldnt awnser his phone and he told me it was in the truck charging. Then I asked him but you called me on your way over here and it took you just a few minutes to get here and you told me you where at your house and leaving. He finally realized that he was caught in a lie, I was really broken by this and asked him why he felt he had to lie to me and he said he didnt want me to get mad about him working. well he knows better than that I like him working and never complained before. I became more upset about him lying to me. Also he tells everyone that he still lives at "his" home with his family. I just dont know what to do and I cannot stand being this way with him we used to get along great. help!! Why does he need to lie to me? Why is he not supportive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): You've only been dating for 6 months and things have gotten very close, very intense, very fast. Maybe he feels a little overwhelmed and just needs some space.
"My job seems to be in a rut and he really has not been supportive what so ever"... You may be depending too heavily on him to provide the support and the excitement you crave. You need to sort out what you want out of life, and change your situation to something more positive. I feel like he needs some space, and he may wondering if he can cope with all the stress. Where are your friends and family and the people you used to turn to before he came along. A boyfriend should help and support you of course, but he can't be your only source of happiness and success.
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reader, Secret Teller +, writes (13 July 2008):
 maybe he feels like he has no freedom anymore, or on the other hand he could be cheating but he prob isn't cheating on you. give him some space and maybe things will work out. relationships are hard and when someone is around other person for a really long time things get old.
best of luck.
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