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writes: my boyfriend is going on holiday to magaluf in the summer as far as i know this is a holiday for clubbing,sex and more clubbing. although i trust him i dont trust the friend his going with. this might sound like a silly question but whys he going on a clubbing holiday with a friend when his got a girlfriend. i dont want to be taken for a mug. i dont know whether im being to suspicious or it is that kind of holiday. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2006): Cuz hes up for a great shagging.
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reader, mystify +, writes (16 February 2006):
 you say he feels he has had a boring life , butif he is serious about you he would find excitement in you and in doing things and hols together at the end of the day if your partner (in a committed relationship) dosent want you there its because they cant do "certain" things or behave a "cerain" way around other people and i wouldnt trust anyone who had this need
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2006): been in the same situation myself, my bf went on one 7mnths after we first got together, never thought he would cheat on me because i trusted him (maybe an issue for you). i didnt like the fact he was going away for 2wks
without me to have fun whilst i would have been at work, it wasnt until he came back n i heard all of the holiday stories that i started to get paranoid, there were so many clues that he had done something but deep down i didnt believe he would cheat. a year later he went on holiday again and i went with my friends, i learnt first hand about the holiday environment and didnt meet 1 bloke who wasnt willing to cheat on his gf. again the paranoia started but deep down you kno if he has cheated, if you really believe in your heart that he has/ will do something then youve gotta get out of there because it will eat at you, it will effect the relationship and then it will turn into your fault when ure not the1 whose done something wrong.
hope i help xXx
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reader, Kathy +, writes (8 February 2006):
Kathy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for advise. ive spoken to him and he feels that hes had a boring life and wants to go as many other men his age have. his 21 and im 17. weve only been together a few months so i dont think hed want me there with him. i know what its like abroad with men! im just going to see how things go before he goes we might not even last but hey who knows! thanks everyone its appreciated. xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): he should not be going without you full stop!! men on holiday together are usually single men, i didnt meet any groups of men on holiday with gf's..and yes they were all out for the laydeez..its just what happens abroad. How old are you? He may want to go if he has never been on a lads hol before and may think hes missing out? Though if this is the reason (talk to him and find out) then maybe a whole group of you could go male and female, then he can still be with the lads some of the time. Dont let him dictate to you, if you are together, you should be a unit. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): I find it appalling that he wants to go without you in the first place! If you don't go, he doesn't go..simple as that. Couples in committed relationships, who love each other..do special things like this together. I have to wonder why he didn't tell his friend that-he'd go if you were invited along. If his friend is a womanizer and likes to have fun-then you can bet your bf will be dragged into it. I'd sit and have a big talk with your fellow and tell him..you would like to go along. If he's committed and loves you like you think he does..he should be happy. If he's not pleased with your suggestion..then you know-he's up to something. Remember to discern a man's devotion and love to you, by his behaviours, not necessarily by what he says. Sit him down and lay it out clearly, what you expect. Good luck and be strong.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (8 February 2006):
 If I were you, I would definitely ask him what kind of holiday this will be. If it is as you think, then he would really have no reason to go because he has you. This issue really needs to be cleared up between you before he goes, you don't want him out there doing who knows what while your sitting at home thinking the worst. I really think it is great that you have a lot of trust for your boyfriend, and time apart can be a good thing, but you need to know the purpose of the holiday. Good luck.
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