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writes:Hey Guys, I am wondering about something. A teacher and I got pretty close last year and I fell for him, he found out and he then took advantage of my feelings and wanted me for sex. This really hurt so in october I deleted him off of chat and then about a month later he sent me a message asking if he was deleted off my list. when i didnt reply, he then asked my friend about me at school (i graduated last june). she didnt give him an answer. I then go to my school to get info about applying to university the other day and him and i briefly chatted, and then i get another message from him today asking why were not friends anymore. why can't he move on? why does he continue to ask about me and message me? i even made it clear that were not going to be more than buddies and he said he understood that. why is it so hard for him to just let it go that i deleted him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): How old is this guy?
Unfortunately, trying to be 'buddies' with him hasn't worked, because he probably still just wants sex. At this point, you need to make it clear that now you can't be friends AT ALL because all he wants is sex and you are still saying no. Tell him not to contact you again, and if he does, you will report him. I bet he wants to keep his job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): I agree with BimBim, but would add that you need to call or email him and make it VERY clear that you want NO contact with him at all and to leave you completely alone...If he doesn't, you need to call an authority, (such as the police), and report harrassment.
As for why, who knows? Do you care? If so, sit down and talk to him about it. If not, and he's creeping you out with his behavior, tell him to buzz off.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 wouldn't you find it hard?
he should of course stop, but in human terms it isn't difficult to understand why he finds that hard.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 You are right to not get into explainations here with this teacher. If he is emailing or texting you these requests, and not face to face, save copies.
If they persist, get somebody in authority to contact him and ask him to stop stalking you, by this I mean a parent, or uncle or aunt or minister, etc.
If he doesnt stop pestering you after that report him to the police.
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