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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. He's very much in love with me and I am with him. The problem is he is always making plans with me then "forgeting about them," or never calls me to let me know he's going out with his friends instead. They are never real major plans just hanging out and watching a movie or something. He always says sorry and he never meant to hurt my feelings, but he keeps doing it. Why does he keep blowing me off? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): Have you ever heard the saying that actions speak louder than words?
If he's "very much in love with me" (is that what he is telling you, by the way?) he would not be blowing you off like this. If it was something that had happened once, or even twice, well, that's understandable. It IS possible to forget he had arranged to meet you. BUT when you called his attention to it and asked "what happened? I thought we were supposed to get together yesterday?" Then that should have been the last time he forgot to meet you.
In fact, if he genuinely stood you up by accident, then AS SOON AS he realized he was supposed to have had a date with you, he should have called you immediately to apologize all over the place!
As things stand now, certainly you should tell him this is not how you expect to be treated. Once you let him know, (if you haven't already) you'll just have to see whether he changes for the better....or not....either way, you will have an answer as to why he's doing this.
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reader, AgonyAuntLisa +, writes (21 September 2006):
 you should tell him stright and tell him how you feel and you want to just spend some time with him and thats why you feel so strongly about him cancelling your plans!
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