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writes:I was with my ex for a year before he broke it off with me. It was hard for me because he didn't tell me the reason why. We had a good relationship and there was no cheating and I did not mistreat or use him. I just didn't know what happened. We had little problems like disagreements over pity stuff that was childdess, which a lot of couples go through. It's been four months now and it's still hard for me. We attend the same church and as long as I don't see him, I'm o.k, but when I do see him, it's hard because I have a lot of hate towards him because I feel that I deserve an explanation about the situation. I gave him a year of my life. When I see him, he can't concentrate on nothing else because he looks at me constantly. He will even come up to me and make it his business to hug me. I feel like he feels that it's o.k. to just forget that we had a relationship and I should except that and everything is o.k with him. He will call me every now and then like he called me for my birthday to acknowledge me. I asked him could we go on a friendly dinner to talk and he keeps saying that the past keeps poping up. I feel like if someone really cares about you and there wasn't any major problems then they should forgive you because nothing stands in the middle of love. I don't think he has forgiven me and still holds a grudge against me. Since he broke it off, why does he continually stare at me like he thinking about something? Why does he care what I'm doing?
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reader, SensitiveAtHeart +, writes (19 June 2008):
Honestly, I believe he's doing this because it would kill him to see you move on and be happy again. The best thing to do is tell him what you two had was great and unforgettable, but you're moving on. It's okay to be FRIENDS but don't answer every time he calls, don't hug him only when it's convienant for him, don't look at him every time he looks at, just glance every now and then.. I'm not trying to tell you to ignore him completely, but let him chase you. You'll find it quite amazing how a guy will react when you don't give them what they want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): It may be that he regrets ending it with you. He probably still loves you.
Speaking as a male i have been through things like that and especially just recently. I split up with my girlfriend a while ago after 2 years of going out. Recently she's been all over me. I still love her of course so I am going to make a go of it. If you love your man then build things up slowly again and your relationship will be stronger than ever. Hope this advice was useful to you =]
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