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writes:I really want another baby, but i think my husband is, once again, just saying we can to make me happy, and not going to fallow through. We have 2 children already. They are my life! I love my kids and want just one more to finally complete our lives. we had a misscarrage in august...and my husband said we can try again in November, its almost november and I am afraid to ask him about it because he always tells me he lies to me to make me temporarily happy or "I just told you that to make you happy" this is something i want really badly and something he did say we can do, but im afraid i will be let down, like everytime he says anything! why wont he ever be honest with me! instead he just leads me on and lets me find out the hard way that he just lied about everyhting he says. I understand that if he doesn't want another one right now then fine... but he never says that he always leads me on and lies.. I find that very cruel and disrespectful especailly when it's about a baby because he knows how much I want this. Why does he always lie and lead me on about anything and everything? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): You are both adults. No need to lie to each other or to play games. Also no need for emotional tantrums, becuase then he will say anything to keep you happy and to have peace. So both of you need to stop your manipulation of each other and stop acting like children.
Sit down and have a calm discussion about this. Having another baby should be a joint decision. If he wants to posthone it for a few months due to finances or something, be realistic and don't nag him or cry and mope.
Reminds me of what Arnold Glasow said:
"The key to everything is PATIENCE. You get the chicken by hatching the egg...not by smashing it".
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